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I have three dc 10 and under and another due in November. I have just completed an NVQ (nearly!) and am on the cusp of getting the uni place I'm desperate for. It's a subject I really love and the uni is really great.
However I just don't know if I'm being abit stupid about the reality of me being able to do it. I start around September and have dc 4 due in November. I am planning to have DHs mum here for a few months to help (her wish) but I'll be doing still the school runs etc (she can't drive, language barrier also but I know she will be fabulous with the baby and cooking and housework which will take a lot of pressure off) . I have a nursery place from 3m (i breastfed my other 3 and plan to do that between lectures etc as its on site).
On the one hand I am thinking it's all going to be fine - I'm a mature student so I won't be skipping classes or out late partying so my time in lectures shouldn't be less than others , if I take a year out then I'm pretty much twiddling my thumbs when I could get cracking (this is based on the fact I am somewhat confident in my subject having done the NVQ (a lot come in via a levels so will have no subject knowledge) and I just cannot keep dragging out my education. DH works so hard but we are basically just keeping afloat without me working (but I need to also be working for a decent salary for it to be worthwhile at all - we explored all options like me not going to uni at all) . I have a school place in a school a stones throw from my building (but one DC is remaining in a school 30-45 mins away as its going to be his year 6) so it should be quite easy (??)
On the other hand maybe I am forgetting all the sleepless nights and leaking ... everything and the exhaustion. Maybe I am deluded thinking I can skip off for a lecture while the baby naps and then pop back for feeds. Maybe I will be torn at 8.55 each morning with needing to go to my class and a baby who is screaming for me....
Has anyone done anything similar? I haven't a clue what to do - ultimately the baby will come first , obviously ... But then if i can push through this year then everything will be a lot better long term (mostly I live in an expensive area and my uni happens to be here (very best for my course) so I am already stuck paying a massive rent which is breaking us - one year sooner graduating will mean £14,000 saving on rent as we can then buy where we want to live)
I am planning to talk to my uni soon (I want my place confirmed first though and an just waiting to graduate from college) to really get a just of the actual hours I'm needed in lectures/trips, but when I asked at the open events I attended they said it was very much based on the options I took.
Sorry for waffling - any advice ? Anyone done this?
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Pendu · 19/06/2016 11:38
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