Hi there, I wonder if anyone can help.
My DD is doing a joint degree at an English Uni. Part of her degree was to spend a year abroad. She went to the other country last sept, was doing fine, though a bit homesick. About 6 weeks in, I had a very distressing phone call with her, she told me she'd got an STI and she just wanted to come home, by this point she'd booked herself into a hotel, still on campus and said she couldn't go back to her room.
To cut a long story short, I ended up flying out there and as she was in such a terrible state and after a week I brought her back with me. She absolutes hated the place and was scared to be on her own. The uni abroad gave her medical note to say it was medical reason that she left. (She had been to the Drs about the STI, they were concerned about her mental health and had advised she went for counselling and advised Anti Depressants, which she didn't take up).
Just after Xmas she told dh and I that she'd actually been raped, by her Resident Assistant. She had been on a few "dates" with him, but at a party he forced her to have sex and this is where she got the STI. She told two friends at the uni and they told her that because she was "on a date" it wasn't rape. So she didn't do anything else about it.
Sorry this is so long!
She wants to drop the part of her degree with covers the year abroad and just do a single degree. Any mention of this country on the TV for instance, means she rushes from the room, she just does not want to continue studying it.
We have a meeting next week to discuss this with her Accademic tutor, however on the uni website it says if any employees, apart form a counsellor, is told about a rape, they WILL report it to the police. Dd does not want this to happen at the moment but how is she supposed to tell them why she want to change her degree, without telling them about the rape?
Thanks if you've managed to read this far!
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