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Oh FFS, DS, just pick a bloody university...

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Lancelottie Mon 05-Jan-15 22:01:36

...because by the time you've done the nth exhaustive spreadsheet comparing the merits of five different courses for the 5th slot on your UCAS form, we are going to be well past the deadline.

DS is on a Gap year. He's had all last year to think about this and has had his results since August.

I can hear him still talking it through with DH in the other room.

I have had to leave before I committed infanticide. JUST STICK A NAME DOWN and send the form in!

QuicheLemon Tue 06-Jan-15 13:41:09

I think they have seven days to amend university choices once they have pressed the send button...

chemenger Tue 06-Jan-15 13:43:35

You can submit it with 4 choices and add a fifth later, but if he has four that he is happy with and is likely to get offers from why bother with a fifth? DD has only four choices and, although she originally intended to add a fifth is probably not going to bother now. I think there is a charge for adding choices once you have submitted, but in the greater scheme of things we were just glad to have the form in.

LoofahVanDross Tue 06-Jan-15 13:48:39

I feel your pain. I went through all of this last year. Oh god was i losing the will to live with bloody UCAS. End result? First choice uni, and he decided to go out to work instead!!

Which suits me fine as he is on a good career path and not coming to us for money!

chocoluvva Tue 06-Jan-15 13:51:17

And a certain amount of mixing and matching is often still possible once you've started your course - I mean, how does anyone know they'll enjoy a course in a subject they've never studied? Go to a Scottish uni and he'll be able to study three or four courses in his first year if he wants.

Lancelottie Tue 06-Jan-15 13:58:13

No please don't add all of Scotland to the list as well, this child is terminally indecisive at the best of times!

(Loofah, we went through it all last year as well. He had good offers. He changed his mind about the course. Which was better than starting, finding he hated it and then pulling out, but still.... aargh!)

Lancelottie Tue 06-Jan-15 13:59:51

Sorry. Ahem. This young adult is terminally indecisive at the best of times. As you were.

PeaStalks Tue 06-Jan-15 15:32:10

OP I feel your pain.
DS1 did this for Every Single Deadline. I was almost sobbing "but what if the internet breaks?" as he waited until 1159pm to press send.
DS2 will be worse next year, I know it. I remember him crying in a sweetie shop when he was 8 because he just could not choose.

Kez100 Tue 06-Jan-15 16:41:44

My DD only wanted to put one!

She managed to find four, pressed send, then managed to bag an unconditional from the first choice.

I am happy in the knowledge that she was absolutely sure it was the right place for her.

Lancelottie Tue 06-Jan-15 17:14:41

Oh Peastalks, please tell me that university was the making of him and you no longer wait up till midnight yelping 'Just Press Send, goddammit!'?

DS would like to meld his options so that Warwick's course runs in Bath and has Durham's college system, and then persuade the friend he met through work to go there instead of Bristol. Then he'd be happy.

PeaStalks Tue 06-Jan-15 17:47:44

Hmm I didn't know that about Scotland.
<adds some Scottish unis to the open day list for DS2>

Lancelottie Actually he has coped better than I thought he might. Although that may just be the blissful ignorance of being 100s of miles away and not knowing his deadlines grin.

eatyourveg Tue 06-Jan-15 21:58:30

Does he actually want to go or is it delaying tactics until he accidentally on purpose misses the deadline?

Lancelottie Wed 07-Jan-15 08:31:43

eatyourveg, I wondered about that last year and in fact he wasn't at all ready to go, but felt he should apply because school said so. He applied in a sort of scattergun approach to five very different courses.

This year he is much more focused, knows what course he wants, and says he does want to apply -- just can't bring himself to miss out any good options.

He's still kicking himself for not re-applying post-A-levels to Cambridge (he has A* A* A results), so he does have form for accidentally missing deadlines through indecision rather than on purpose.

Solasum Wed 07-Jan-15 08:35:07

In which case why doesn't he take another year 'out' working and apply to Cambridge next time round?

Lancelottie Wed 07-Jan-15 11:43:18

because I'd have throttled him by then

Yes, good suggestion!

RandomFriend Thu 08-Jan-15 12:00:54

Submit the form with four choices, and add a fifth afterwards.

The deadline is very, very close and the school has to add its stuff.

MrsMcRuff Thu 08-Jan-15 12:07:05

He applied in a sort of scattergun approach to five very different courses.

Ds wanted to do this, but found it hard to adapt his personal statement........Aaargh!! (sorry, had a flashback) cover different courses. How did your ds manage?

Needmoresleep Thu 08-Jan-15 12:30:11

Sympathies. However remember most courses are only three years. Is it likely that he will want to do a Masters. If so he might do better seeing his first degree as a stepping stone, and simply decide that any of the Universities you have mentioned will provide a firm foundation. The longer he takes starting the longer he will take to finish.

Lancelottie Thu 08-Jan-15 19:48:09

RandomFriend -- hurray, that's just what he has done! The UCAS site is already showing his reference as complete (? confused) but I'll check that the school think they've done it.

MrsMcRuff -- I think last year's application contained the splendid phrase 'my interests have always lain at the intersection between art, science and the environment' (yes, he does write that pompously in real life) which covered... pretty much anything barring MFL, really.

SlowlorisIncognito Fri 09-Jan-15 13:09:43

Can you try to detach a bit now he's sent his application off? He's presumably 18 or 19. If he misses out on things because he can't make a decision, that isn't really your problem, is it? I certainly don't think you should be chasing up the school for him! If you withdraw a bit more, it might focus his mind?

Lancelottie Fri 09-Jan-15 13:25:19

There are some special needs involved, Loris. I absolutely take your point, but at school he had a full-time keyworker, so the transition from that to whatever the unis can provide will have to be a bit more gradual.

Lancelottie Fri 09-Jan-15 13:29:52

And I know it's really irritating of me to drip-feed that aspect, but I just needed to let some steam out of my ears without being all understanding of his difficulties for a bit!

chocoluvva Fri 09-Jan-15 14:18:18

I honestly wouldn't worry too much about his personal statement - the heads of dept I know all say they barely read them!

I know what you mean about not wanting special needs to always come into everything! (My DH has aspergers - I know he doesn't mean to forget stuff, but it's still irritating sometimes)

Glad he's got his application off.

PiratePanda Sat 10-Jan-15 12:47:42

Nobody will care about or even read the personal statement of a candidate who already has their A-Levels (and outstanding ones to boot). They'll just tick off whether the subjects are a good match for the course.

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