Apologies if this topic has been done to death or if this post is in the wrong thread etc. I would just like some advice .
DD started uni[Russell group/Red brick, good reputation] in September. Initially, seemed to settle in well. She was looking forward to beginning the next part of her life. She wasn't and still isn't home sick. she is enjoying her course, and seemed to make friends with the others in her flat in Halls.
About 3 weeks in however, her flat mates began to change. Some of the girls[one or two of whom appear to be incredibly spoilt] became very sullen. They have begun to sulk if they don't get their own way on a night out for example. Last night one of them threw a massive tantrum over a meal. DD feels that she is stuck in the middle constantly trying to cajole, organise etc. She feels that it is all becoming hard work.
A little more worrying is the behaviour of some of the boys in the flat. DD and some of the girls are having to almost constantly deal with sexist remarks. Said in jest and usually to do with cleaning the flat, which they almost always refuse to do. They talk almost constantly about sex, in front of the girls, and seem to have little respect for how this affects others.
They refuse to tone down their language, and have caused offence on more than one occasion. Some of their behaviour is vile.There has been a suggestion made by some of the flat mates that drugs are being used in the flat, although DD hasn't witnessed this. This concerns me greatly.
So all in all, not the best of atmospheres. DD is trying really hard to make friends, but finds it difficult on her course, since there are literally hundreds of them and she rarely sees the same person twice. She is enjoying being part of one of the sports teams however.
I am really beginning to feel that we as parents pay good money for our kids to be at these unis, but that the behaviour of some of the students really does leave a lot to be desired. Is it worth it, when your child rings up and tells you some of the things that are going on.
Any advice, gladly accepted
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hanginginthere1 · 03/11/2014 10:50
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