Can't believe I'm asking about bags for Uni, but.....(35 Posts)
I know, it's a ridiculous thing to ask but I know you lot will know. DS off to Uni in a 9 days [sob], his school rucksack is in shreds, what do uni students carry their
beer and fags books around in? He has about 1 mile to walk to the campus.
Thanks eatyourveg for the tip about scanning docs. And thanks everyone else for suggesting a box/concentina file
the floor. I shall wait with bated breath to see what happens.
I've just asked this question on the secondary thread -
someone suggested Eastpak bags - DS liked the look and I've ordered one. Wide range of colours, look robust and plenty big enough.
£34.98 from Amazon - not cheap but reckon good value.
Mine has a box file that he keeps all his documents in, I think most of the contents and the box will go with him.
He chose a bag just after his A levels, a horribly expensive tough rucksack from The North Face. But it's waterproof and he will be able to buy food on his way home.
Oh, beware of asda's cheaper bedding. Not worth it. At all. We have some on the bed at the moment and we both end up using our fleece blanket because it feels yucky.
DP is buying himself a gamers backpack for his next term. They are huge and have hundreds of pockets, really handy things!
TBH, I'd leave him to it though. For two months last year every single time DP and I did a shop in Sainsbury's we'd be surrounded by either a) parents buying their uni student kids more things to fill the cupboards or b) hapless students wondering around trying to work out what what equipment they'd need. It was quite funny if a bit annoying as we went late to get the deals and they'd be snapped up already
I did end up having to explain to a girl that no, she wouldn't be able to make herself decent pasta in a milk pan and she should just get the bigger one which was about a quid more. She had asked for help otherwise I would have just been mildly amused by it and walked on.
isthiscorrect He's got an expandable file (suggestion from a mner last year) which bank statements, exam certificates and the paper bit of driving licence are in so I'm encouraging that but it'll be free pickings for anyone going in his room and as he will be sharing a house he's not likely to lock his room every time he goes into the kitchen/lounge. I've scanned in photocopies should anything get stolen
I still haven't persuaded ds to come to Asda and buy pans, bedding, etc. He just doesn't really care what sort of cutlery he gets
missmarples I agree with you. DD3 has done very well organising and mаking phone calls. However she has asked for and enjoys our input. I'm making the most of it as soon I want be able to go shopping and meet up for coffee with her
Mumble If you & your son want to share the experience of getting him off to Uni then good for you!
Why, whenever here is a post just recently about helping the new off-to-Uni offspring get ready, does the post bring out a rash of accusations of "helicopter parenting" ?
Yes some kids like to do it all on their own, brillliant that's good for them if they want to. But some of us are actively enjoying working WITH our DC's on this new adventure, at their request ( because y'know for some it's a bit scary as well as exciting) letting them do the bulk of the arranging but making a few suggestions , dividing the tasks, and generally SUPPORTING them as we have done for years.
If you don't want to do that/ your DC doesn't want or need it then great bully for you, but please stop making the rest of us feel like we're interfering clucky parents for being a tad more involved!!
<sorry to hijack Mumble>
I think a lot leave things they don't need regularly (passport, paper driving license counterpart) at home and go paperless with bank stuff.
Sadly in my experience isthis students keep their important documents wherever they put them down last! At least this is what one of my DCs did. They both had box files from WHSmiths. It is worth the container being reasonably large so that complete envelopes ( bank statements) can be put in the box file. Bank statements don't seem to be open these days as they have access to their accounts on their phones.
Slightly off topic but eatyourveg said about a tin box for docs. If her ds wasnt planning on using said tin box, where do students keep their stuff like passport etc?
Sorry for my maybe a bit mean reply, it really isn't the end of the world if you buy one, it isn't going to mean aged 40 he is still waiting for you to buy his bag to go to work!! Just knowing my DS he wouldn't have used anything I bought as I'd be wrong but DD would have loved me to.
And I was just as worried when my DC went off don't worry, it gets easier.
Thanks for understanding Noddy, Already et al. I'm so not a helicopter parent but he has two days (two afternoons, really as he doesn't emerge before 12 to do a million and one things. I probably wont actually end up buying the bag, I was just having one of those wobbly moments when I posted the OP!
The young man has two days to get everything ready, if he isn't fussy it's one less thing to worry about and if he is he'll take it back but at least it reminds him to get one. Once they arrive at uni he can happily spend his time
sleeping off his hangover meeting people and making friends instead of being one of those people who have to run around buying everything they need.
I will prob buy ds one as he has been working loads and is going to a festival for 5 days while I have v little on. It is not a sign of interfering I think they will have enough to do! Clothes and stuff he can do himself but its nice to get involved a bit and my son seems to be fine with it and even -gasp- likes it!
I bought ds a small tin box with a lock on yesterday for him to keep his passport/birth certificate etc safe. It was met with "Buy it if it makes you feel better, I'll take it with me but don't expect me to ever use it" I took it back.
I think if OP wants to buy the bag to save her ds the hassle then thats fine - Mums like to feel useful, everyone copes with dc flying the nest in different ways - buying a bag is no different than buying a duvet, set of towels, saucepans etc or anything else which many parents will be getting. I'm getting ds very little, he's taking things from home including sheets, duvets, towels and pans and I'm having the new stuff
Then again, if Mumble's son isn't really bothered and is busy, it's a nice thing for Mumble to do. Personally, I wouldn't buy my dd a bag without her input, because knowing her she wouldn't like the one I'd chosen, but there are other things I've bought her for uni, even though I'm sure she would be capable of going and buying them herself.
Has he brought it up or is it you forgetting he isn't starting secondary, but UNI?!
If he is asking your opinion, that is different. Otherwise just leave it to him, it is his problem.
Don't worry this was me 5 years ago when DS started... you learn!!
But why do you need to get "a head start" on his bag for him? There will be evenings, weekends, slots of time in the first couple of weeks for him to sort himself out... He is best choosing something himself that works for him, once he's there, and there will be plenty of other students on campus with bags and laptops etc, so he will very quickly be able to work it out himself.
Part of the fun of uni is doing things like that. Sorting out the small, do-able details is part of the early days of coping with living away from home for the first time. I remember feeling pretty grown up because I was able to buy a winter coat by myself in my first month at uni without my mum looking over my shoulder/having an opinion/commenting on how practical is was/wasn't etc. Getting yourself sorted is part of the uni experience.
I'm sorry but the answer to your question is 'nothing bought for them by their mums'
Where is he going to Uni? Surely it's a city of some sort, or at least a large town, there will be bags on sale, he can buy one in fresher's week.
If your DS can't sort out his own bag for Uni, I don't fancy his chances very much if he is living away from home...
well mine chose a new rucksack with an internal laptop pocket and space for a file. Side pocket for water bottle and a hole in the top so the phone can be inside the rucksack and the earphones still in use. A plastic big liner is their normal method of waterproofing but we have sprayed one (probably with Nikwax products) in the past.
I was warned that things get stolen from rucksacks unless padlocked but the laptop pocket is so tight I doubt a thief could remove it.
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