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OK Tina Malone has her baby at 50....too old?

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LisaMcGarry Wed 18-Dec-13 15:03:53

I am in two minds about this. I know it depends on the mum but still, when the baby's a teenager she'll be getting her bus pass and she doesn't have the best history in terms of personal health....

In saying that, my pal had her first baby at 46 and is the best mum I know...

It's never black and white is it?

Jinty64 Sat 01-Mar-14 15:06:28

I had ds3 when I was 42. It was great I didn't feel any less energetic than I did with the other two and, if anything, had more patience and was more relaxed this time. I did everything exactly as I liked and wasn't bothered what antone thought. I really enjoyed his babyhood.

But, I'm now 50 and he's 7. He is quite a demanding and energetic little boy who finishes one task and is on to the next. He rarely sits still for a minute loves going to the park, swimming and out on his bike with me trotting alongside (more like hobbling these days). I really don't have the energy I used to. I couldn't bear to think so starting again with a baby now.

cece Wed 19-Feb-14 07:57:42

I had my last DC at 42 and for me that was old enough. If it's right for her then great but it wouldn't be for me.

fedupandfifty Wed 19-Feb-14 07:48:40

Too old, imho. I had mine at 42. I'm reasonably fit and active, but I can't imagine running round after a tiny child now. The risks around giving birth are higher, and you get the menopause on top of everything else. You are more vulnerable to arthritis and osteoporosis. And you are more set in your ways. It's harder to have anything in common with other parents.

Good luck to her though. I think she'll need it.

JazzAnnNonMouse Thu 19-Dec-13 08:17:54

Good luck to her, she seems happy and the baby will be well loved. It helps that the father is younger.

I do think it's too old though, she probably won't have an active role with her grandchildren (of this baby) and people will probably assume that her daughter is the babies mum if they're all out together. There's a chance of course that she won't live to see much of the babies life beyond reaching adulthood and yet there's a chance that she'll be around until baby is in their 40.

We do judge women (and men) for their choices and decisions, too old too young too poor too this too that.

It wouldn't be for me but then my choices might not suit someone else.

OneStepCloser Thu 19-Dec-13 08:14:36

I agree with curlew and creamy. I always find it odd that people quite happy to have a go at women for being older but very rarely men for having babies later in life.

I agree with creamy. Why do women judge each other so harshly?

TheNightIsDark Thu 19-Dec-13 07:58:50

Age isn't the issue.

Flame? Flame isn't a name confused

AgentProvocateur Thu 19-Dec-13 07:55:32

Not too old for a baby at 50, but too old for a 16 year old at 66.

usualsuspect Thu 19-Dec-13 07:36:26

Good luck to her.

MoominsYonisAreScary Thu 19-Dec-13 07:34:18

I wouldnt want to be dealing with teens in my 60s.

LisaMcGarry Thu 19-Dec-13 07:31:01

Flip I can barely deal with teenagers now and I'm 37!

GreenShadowsOfTheChristmasTree Wed 18-Dec-13 15:39:35

Hmm, mixed thoughts.

I'm just over 50 myself and at the moment would feel quite confident about being able to cope with a new baby. I need far less sleep now than I ever did in my 30s and have plenty of energy so don't think tiredness need necessarily be a major consideration.

But, I quite see that that may not last and can't see myself wanting to be dealing with teenagers at 65 and beyond.

deepfriedsage Wed 18-Dec-13 15:29:30

In her situation she has a dh in his early thirties and a dd she had as a teen so plenty of people around to help. No matter what age you become a Mum your an old fogey when they are teens. She goes on about how fit her Mum is, she never mentions her Dad, she forgets she shares his genes. She cane across as an arse in Bigbrother, I feel sorry for the baby to be honnest.

Sparklingbrook Wed 18-Dec-13 15:28:36

She certainly doesn't seem 50, and she was so excited to be having this baby. She lost so much weight and believe she was due to have twins but lost one.

Good luck to her, and her DH.

Creamycoolerwithcream Wed 18-Dec-13 15:20:10

I don't get this thing women do to to other women regarding motherhood. Too old, too old, too many. You never hear men bitch in this way.

JollySantersSelectionBox Wed 18-Dec-13 15:19:55

I know a few women at 50 who are a lot healthier and active than I was at 35 when I had DS.

Her husband is 31 isn't he?

I'm not pointing the finger on this thread but when Hugh Heffner types have kids in their 70's by 25 year old women it's more of a pat on the back moment.

LaurieFairyCake Wed 18-Dec-13 15:19:24

Nope, not too old.

Right at the limit for natural conception though.

Ledkr Wed 18-Dec-13 15:19:11

Not that young tho!

Ledkr Wed 18-Dec-13 15:18:30

I had dd at 44, I did find it much Hesse than with the others I had in my twenties and thirties but she is as happy and well cared for as any other child her age.
Like Tina M my dh is younger than me so he has a bit more energy which I have to admit does help.

GwendolineMaryLacey Wed 18-Dec-13 15:17:54

Far worse situations I meant. Their situation isn't bad IYSWIM <digs hole>

curlew Wed 18-Dec-13 15:17:23

Just so long as all you "too old-ers" feel the same about a 50 year old father.......

defineme Wed 18-Dec-13 15:17:21

Well the baby's Dad is only 31, so he will care for his child if and when she can't.
My dh is 50 and he'd be a great Dad again, as he is to our 8 yrolds and 11 yrold.
She doesn't seem like a women who cares what other people think and I wish her well.
I think there's lots of different types of parents, mostly doing the best they can. Elton John is far older than Tina and he seems to be adapting to fatherhood well.

GwendolineMaryLacey Wed 18-Dec-13 15:15:47

I wouldn't fancy it either, am 42 with a nearly 2yo and am knackered! However, that's me. I gather the baby was very much wanted and will doubtless be much loved and cared for so good luck to them. There are babies born in worse situations.

TheZeeTeam Wed 18-Dec-13 15:15:12

Who's Tina Malone?

somersethouse Wed 18-Dec-13 15:13:50

I actually don't know who she is? Halle Berry, I don't get the impression is too old at all.

I think it just depends on each individual. Me at 50 with a newborn... nope!

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