MumsnetGuestPosts (MNHQ) Wed 11-Mar-15 14:18:11

Guest post: 'Mumsnet is like having a thousand extra sisters you never knew you needed'

Today is Mumsnet's 15th birthday - to mark the occasion, Mumsnet veteran Philippa Molloy shares what the site has meant to her

Philippa Molloy

Beds in the Orchard

Posted on: Wed 11-Mar-15 14:18:11


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'It was the first time I'd laughed in weeks. That, my friends, is what Mumsnetters are all about.'

In 2012, I had a breakdown and was admitted to a psychiatric hospital with severe depression. The day after I was admitted, a member of staff came to my room to say that I had two visitors. I didn't recognise their names. When I met them in the corridor, in front of the staff, they greeted me like old friends, and I went along with it.

When we were alone in the visiting room, they introduced themselves, with an apology. "Sorry," the tall one said, "but if I'd introduced myself as TheSecondComing and said that she was a BitOfFun, they'd never have let us in." I burst out laughing. It was the first time I'd laughed in weeks. That, my friends, is what Mumsnetters are all about.

Fast forward to 2014 and I was ill again and back in hospital. Soon after I was discharged, the news filtered through the community that The Orchard hospital where I had been treated was now male only, meaning there was no local psychiatric inpatient care for women at all. All the female patients were being sent miles away for treatment, with no chance of being treated close to home.

I can clearly remember how far my stomach sank when I heard the news. I felt sick, I felt scared, and I felt vulnerable. What if I got ill again? What would it be like to be miles away from my children, my family, my friends? I walked around my home town thinking about it, and the more I walked and the more I thought, the angrier I became. How could the needs of women like me be dismissed so casually? How could we lose a service without a thought as to how it would affect the women around me? I needed to do something, but what, and how? I needed help from somewhere.

Since joining, I have had support through some of the toughest experiences of my life, including my child being diagnosed with autism, and serious illness.

I sent out a call for help from the people I knew, and much of that help came from Mumsnetters. With their help, the Beds in the Orchard campaign was started.

MmeLindor gave me a crash course on how to run a social media campaign by using a blog and Twitter to generate interest and support, and provided me with a long list of names of people who she thought could help. Therealsgm came to the rescue by posting about the situation on a site she helped run, which in turn generated interest from national media, with articles in the New Statesman and the Huffington Post. Another Mumsnetter put me in contact with a journalist, who gave me amazing advice about what to do next, leading to coverage on local BBC Radio and in the press.

A lot of work went into keeping the campaign going at a local level, with service users joining together to share their stories and look into the legal aspects of the closure, but that was all backed up by the help and support from my Mumsnet family. With their help, we turned a small campaign about six beds in a small psychiatric unit in the corner of North Lancashire into something that people all over the country cared about and wanted to support.

Mumsnetters tweeted and retweeted our posts and promoted the campaign. Mumsnet Bloggers gave me Blog of the Day, generating many more signatures on our petition. The local Mumsnet and Gransnet sites for Preston, Blackpool, Lancashire and Cumbria all helped support the campaign by sharing our blog, promoting our petition, and tweeting their support. Hundreds of Mumsnetters signed our petition, and some even wrote directly to the Lancashire Care NHS Foundation Trust to show their support for us.

We fought and fought hard to get the beds back for the women, and we WON! At the end of January 2015, the Trust reverted The Orchard to a mixed-sex facility, and we doubt that they will close it to women again.

Being a Mumsnetter is like having a thousand extra sisters you never knew you needed. Since joining, I have had support through some of the toughest experiences of my life, including my child being diagnosed with autism, and serious illness.

I have had support and advice about everything from how to navigate the system to get a Statement of SEN for my child, to how to get rid of the mould from my washing machine. I have laughed my hardest at some of the funniest threads and cried along with those who are suffering. When I was in hospital, women I'd never met or spoken to in real life wrote me letters and made me feel cared about in a way that's hard to express in words.

I have met some of my best friends on Mumsnet, with online acquaintances turning into real life friends. Even though, sadly, one of them now lives on the other side of the world, I count myself fortunate to know them every day.

So Happy Birthday, Mumsnet! I am truly honoured to have been given a guest post for your birthday. You're one in a million, and I'm glad I have your sisterhood on my side.

By Philippa Molloy

Twitter: @OrchardBeds

BOFster Wed 11-Mar-15 14:33:46

<mists up>

I remember when I used to be a BitOfFun. I must see if I can get my old name back to celebrate the birthday. Lovely post- it just shows the difference mumsnetters can make when we pull together.

KeemaNaanAndCurryOn Wed 11-Mar-15 14:43:06

I remember when you used to be fun as well... wink

BOFster Wed 11-Mar-15 14:47:39

Teenagers can do that to you...

TheCountessofFitzdotterel Wed 11-Mar-15 14:54:04

<goes warm and gooey inside, like a microwave chocolate sponge with fondant filling>

wreckingball Wed 11-Mar-15 15:32:46

Love you long time Keema x

AnyFucker Wed 11-Mar-15 15:40:41

Right on, sister thanks


RichmondPark Wed 11-Mar-15 15:49:09

Good one, sweetcheeks wink

FatSwan Wed 11-Mar-15 15:51:05

Great post! Mumsnet rocks flowers

OddBoots Wed 11-Mar-15 15:53:33

It does feel a bit like family here, slightly dysfunctional at times but dependable all the same. I like knowing that there are women here with knowledge of a whole world of things giving any and almost every perspective who are willing to share, support and often engage in (usually) respectful debate.

It's heartening to hear so many stories of support and campaigning over the years.

WasabiPeace Wed 11-Mar-15 16:14:44

Love you Keema xxx

GwenaelleLaGourmande Wed 11-Mar-15 16:16:41

What a lovely post and I am so glad the battle of the Orchard was won. Well done you smile

DiaryOfAWimpyMum Wed 11-Mar-15 16:18:32

Lovely OP. flowers

BewitchedBotheredandBewildered Wed 11-Mar-15 16:52:08

Fabulous Keema flowers

TheWomanTheyCallJayne Wed 11-Mar-15 17:49:19

I feel like it's a university where people do and say lot of silly and fun things but you learn loads and make good friends.

OttiliaVonBCup Wed 11-Mar-15 18:16:49


If all those thousands of extra sisters are like my real one, then I'll be buggered.

<<only joking>>

SirChenjin Wed 11-Mar-15 18:24:03


FuckYouChrisAndThatHorse Wed 11-Mar-15 18:43:38

Amazing, I seem to have something in my eye.

Mumsnet, and in particular AF (sorry AF you won't have a clue who I am, or who I was), saved me and changed my life so completely I can't begin to tell anyone.

How complete strangers can help and support without expecting anything back, is a really incredible thing.

I'll stop gushing now.

BuzzardBird Wed 11-Mar-15 18:48:45

I got goosebumps reading that. What a lovely story of support.

This is what MN needs to stay like.

AnyFucker Wed 11-Mar-15 18:48:48

Oh, wow.

KeemaNaanAndCurryOn Wed 11-Mar-15 19:10:18

It's the best of Mumsnet, really. Like any family, we're pretty dysfunctional at times, and bloody infuriating at others, but there's an underlying level of lovely that makes us stick with it.

Joyfulldeathsquad Wed 11-Mar-15 19:22:13

Lovely smile

weebarra Wed 11-Mar-15 19:37:27

Lovely Keema, and so glad you won your fight. Mumsnet is a lifeline for so many - I had breast cancer last year and got so much support.

PacificDogwood Wed 11-Mar-15 19:47:28

thanks to the OP for writing this and for everybody who was involved in the campaign.

I don't have a RL sister which I have never missed tbh, but I luffs you all grin

MajesticWhine Wed 11-Mar-15 20:04:08

Lovely. I don't have a sister and I completely agree. Well done on the campaign OP.

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