Amidst the swathes of headlines we've seen over the last week, it's clear that the findings making the biggest impression are related to changes in women's sexual behaviour. Women now have more sexual partners than ever before, an average of 8 in a lifetime, closing the gender gap on men, who have an average of 12, according to our findings. The figure marks a doubling since the first survey 20 years ago when women had an average of four sexual partners in their lives.
In some areas of sexual activity, women have overtaken men. Almost one in six women reported having ever had a same-sex experience compared with one in 14 men, a figure that marks a four-fold increase since the first survey twenty years ago.
Both women and men begin having sex at a young age, though the majority of people (seven out of ten) aged 16-24 wait until age 16 before having sex. For the first time, we also looked at the views and experiences of older people, up to the age of 74, revealing that many Britons are remaining sexually active well into later life.
It's easy to speculate on what might be driving these changes in sexual behaviour, although many have been going on for decades. Women's greater economic independence and the ability to control fertility have enabled more equal relationships with men. In the last twenty years we've seen profound changes in media representations of female sexuality, from avidly following the sexual exploits of Carrie and the rest of the Sex and the City gang, to watching pop stars engage in provocative dance moves live on TV. Same-sex relationships are now common in soap operas and TV shows and many celebrities feel comfortable openly discussing their sexuality without it hindering their careers.
All of this may have contributed to the changing attitudes towards sex that we captured in our latest survey. Two thirds of women now accept same-sex partnerships as 'not wrong at all', compared with just over half of men in the current survey and less than a third of the women surveyed twenty years ago. But does this mean we are becoming more liberal? In some areas we're actually becoming more conservative: around two thirds of us believe that non-exclusivity in marriage is always wrong.
On the other hand, people are becoming more adventurous, with the number of those reporting oral sex, other genital contact and anal sex with a partner of the opposite sex increasing with each birth cohort surveyed over the twenty years of Natsal.
Despite this greater diversity, overall, people say they are having less sex than they were twenty years ago with a (median) average of just three times a month compared with five last time around (although some commentators clearly still find this figure unrealistic!). That's not to say this is a bad thing, after all sex is about quality not just quantity. But the study also found that women are less likely to enjoy sex than men and around one in twelve reported that they felt no excitement or arousal during sex. One of the many striking findings of our study was that almost a half of all people reported experiencing one or more sexual difficulties in the last year, though only one in ten said that they were distressed or worried about their sex lives.
Sex is an important health issue. It is no longer as taboo as it once was to discuss erectile dysfunction, infertility or sexually transmitted infections but people and health professionals may still find it difficult to talk about sexual problems. One in six people reported having a health condition that had interfered negatively with their sex lives but less than a quarter sought help or advice from a healthcare professional.
Perhaps the most disturbing finding from our survey was that one in ten women and one in seventy men in the UK have experienced sex against their will. Less than half of them have ever told anybody about it. This is a sobering statistic that indicates for the first time just how prevalent sexual coercion is, although many victims don't recognise it as such.
Sex and relationships are important to all of us as human beings. It is the source of some of our greatest joy, but can result in unintended consequences, including health and physical or emotional problems. For many if not most of us, a sexual identity with which we feel comfortable and a sex life with which we are satisfied are very much a part of our overall wellbeing. Sexual health should be seen not merely as an absence of disease, but about pleasurable and safe sexual experiences that are free of coercion, discrimination and violence.
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