OK, I'm going back to work full time the week after next after 7 lovely months with DS. I do want to go back as I love my job and we need the money. We've organised childcare so that DH will be home 2 days a week, my parents will have DS two days and my MiL and SiL will have him together one day a week, which they say they are very excited about. I feel very fortunate that I have family who can help us out this way.
I have made sure that DS has spent loads of time with my parents, has a cot to sleep in, and all the other equipment that they and he will need. I'm reasonably confident that they'll all be OK together.
However DS has spent barely any time with my ILs. I've been going on and on to DH for months to try and get MiL to spend some time with DS but he hasn't sorted it out. I've asked MiL myself and she's put me off every time. She knows nothing about DS and they can't have any kind of attachment. I feel as though she's doing us a favour and therefore I can't get arsey about it though.
Even though I do want to go back to work this is really stressing me out. DH and I had a massive argument about it last weekend and I haven't mentioned it all week as I figured I'd just trust DH to talk to his mum and arrange some time together this week. He hasn't. I've just talked to him about it again to try to explain why it's important to me and been accused of nagging etc.
I'm so because the nursery I would have used sends out your key worker to your home to spend time with you and your DC two weeks before they start there and they work really hard to ease you all in. For a bit of cash I could be sure that DS would be happy in my absence but, god forbid, I upset the MiL by rocking the boat at all.
I guess I'd just like some advice from anyone who's been in a similar situation.
OR you can all just tell me to stop being such a twunt about my PFB and get over myself!
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feralgirl · 19/06/2009 22:36
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