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BexSandy Sun 13-Feb-05 20:32:56

My partner and I are considering a weekend away from our 7.5 month old son, but I'm starting to feel guilty about leaving him - even though he'll be in our home with his adoring grandma. What do you all think? Has anyone else been away successfully (or not) at this stage? Advice & help please!?

vict17 Sun 13-Feb-05 20:35:24

For me personnally this would have been a bit too early. I know I wouldn't have felt very relaxed no matter who was looking after ds. Ds is now 10 months and I still don't want to go away without him. It's not what I had him for. We've got a babysitter tomorrow night for Valentine's Day and that in itself is quite a big deal for me. I think I'm a bit sad though!!!!

tillykins Sun 13-Feb-05 20:35:45

I probably couldn't have done it
But I probably should have - I think if you are happy that Grandma can take care of him, you should go and be a couple rather than parents, it will do you both good
Be sure and post all the lovely details so we can all be

Frizbe Sun 13-Feb-05 21:13:04

I went away for a friends hen do, leaving dh with dd when she was nearly 5 mths, and they were both fine! I had a great time, got to re charge my batteries, with my friends, two of whom also had young kids, and we spent half the weekend talking about them as well I recommend it if you can do it, you'll feel so much more like yourself after a break (or maybe that's just me?) you can call twice a day to check up on them, and keep your mobile handy in case of probs, but there probably won't be any, in fact your biggest problem will be getting granny to give baby back at the end, if they're anything like my parents

WideWebWitch Sun 13-Feb-05 21:14:51

We had a night in a hotel when our dd was 6 months old and she was very well cared for by my step sister and her children. Everyone concerned had a lovely time! Go for it!

CountessDracula Sun 13-Feb-05 21:15:24

Hi I did it when dd was 4 months - went to Tobago for a week and left dd with grandma. It was fine. I missed her like hell but tbh I needed the break after an awful birth and 9 hour general anaesthetic which left me exhausted and zombie like! I would do it if Grandma is up for it

Twiglett Sun 13-Feb-05 21:17:52

I had to go away for a night when DS was about 9 months old

I hated it and got up at 6am to get the first train back (it was a company christmas do .. I couldn't wait to leave the hotel)

I wouldn't do it again (DS is now 4 and DD is 9 months now) .. it wasn't right for me and I can't imagine it ever being right for me

But .. you do what you feel is right for you so if you want to, do it

lockets Sun 13-Feb-05 21:21:02

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madgirl Sun 13-Feb-05 21:21:46

i think you should go with your gut instincts. with ds1 i left him for 2 nights for a girly w/end in spain and didn't enjoy it one iota, but with ds2, i left him with dh and ds1 for a night when he was 10 weeks and HAD A BALL!! if there is quite a big part of you that is anxious i would say leave it for a couple more months. everyone is different and it doesn't make you a bad or good, neurotic or too laid back mummy if you decide to go,or not. xx

Bozza Sun 13-Feb-05 21:25:28

I think basically its down to you. He'll be fine - familiar surroundings, his familiar Grandma etc. So its down to how you feel about it. If you're worried about a weekend what about trying one night first?

reindeer Mon 14-Feb-05 08:08:29

I couldn't do it, but I don't think that's a good thing as I feel a bit if a martyr saying that

I have never had a break away from my kids and the oldest is nearly 7

But this is mainly due to having no relatives nearby that I could leave them with and be relaxed too. I have a sister I'd leave them with but she's 400 miles away and hasn't ever offered anyway...

So I'd say if baby is happy and your mum can manage GO FOR IT!!!

reindeer Mon 14-Feb-05 08:13:52

I should add my dh is more than capable and would never stop me if I wanted a break, I just don't feel I could leave them yet...

Also this has as much to do with finances as anything else.
I gave up work to raise the kids and we live on a VERY low income, so nights away are out for now...

Toothache Mon 14-Feb-05 08:15:50

I went away from DS for the 1st time when he was 11 months old. It was my best friends Hen Night down in Newcastle. Since I was the Chief Bridesmaid I felt obliged to go. To make matters worse DH was going to the Stag Night down in Liverpool (where his folks live), my Mum was working so DH had to take Ds with him and leave him at his Mums! Ds didn't see his Nana and Grandad in Liverpool for 3 months at a time so was always a bit strange with them at first. I felt sick at the thought of leaving him and phoned constantly..... I found that large amounts of alcohol and a foam covered dancefloor acted as a good distraction though and the time passed quickly and without incident. Have fun!

BexSandy Mon 14-Feb-05 17:54:31

Thank you everyone for your comments! I saw a paediatrician this morning and asked his advice too. He said if he'd been in our position (we've had a bit of a tough time since the birth) he'd have done it ages ago! That made me feel it was okay. I will miss ds, still feel a bit worried and concerned that he may feel abandoned, but I know his grandma will give him lots of love - and we need this break... so I took the plunge and booked it. Wish us luck and thank you!

myermay Tue 15-Feb-05 10:22:26

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hercules Tue 15-Feb-05 10:24:19

We would never have done it but it is a personal thing. I did go to work though when dd was 5 months which is probably far worse......

lapsedrunner Tue 15-Feb-05 10:25:13

I left my ds with my sister for a wekend when he was 10 months old and it was wonderful! Can't say I felt too guilty, just relieved to be on my one for a while even though I was working. Make the most of it and enjoy yourselves.

Carameli Tue 15-Feb-05 12:19:20

we left our DD for a weekend when she was about 7mnths with her grandparents. I have to admit that I was in tears leaving her but my mum told me it was the best thing I could do, that I should take a chance for a break when I could.

The first weekend away I did call quite a bit check on her but we also started to try and get away for a weekend every few months. The other times got easier.
It is also really great to have a chance to be a couple again and just to choose where you want to go in the evening, restaurant, pub etc etc

The smiles when you get back are so amazing as well.

motheroftwins Tue 15-Feb-05 13:28:07

This is about you really and not about your child - he will be just fine, infact this is the absolute best time to do this kind of thing as he won't have utter hysterics when you leave the room. I wish we had done it more when my two (now 21 mths) were that age. Its really about whether you can cope with the separation!! Our first night away was at 14 mths and it was very hard but I know other mums who jet off with work at a moments notice (we haven't actually been away from them since!) To see how you cope how about doing one night (sat am to sunday pm) and only an hour or so from home so that you feel close but are still away. I have learnt by now that its so important for you and hubby to continue your life together enjoying eachother and thats important for your kids as well - go and enjoy!!

Newyearmum Tue 15-Feb-05 16:39:38

Unbelievable timing as this is an issue close to my heart at the moment...

I am a bridesmaid/matron of honour (!) in June when DD will be 11 months. The problem is that:

a) the wedding is in Spain
b) babies are not allowed at the wedding
c) I am expected to be there for 5 days before the wedding to join in the celebrations

So we have to be apart for 4 nights. I feel so, so whenever I think about it. DD will be with DH for 3 nights then with mil for last night.

Gutted - HOW WILL I COPE???

Bozza Tue 15-Feb-05 16:44:14

With DS (haven't left DD yet) I found the first time quite difficult but after that much easier. Have still not left him for more than a night with anyone other than DH (that was two nights once) but he goes off to his grandparents for 24 hours every couple of months. Since I still have DD and he is always grumpy/tired the next day it is more for him/them than me at the moment....

gemmamay Wed 16-Feb-05 21:41:58

Our little one was 6 months and we were only in the next town and it was for one night only! It felt like i was a teenager bunking off school!

I was bf and the week before was expressing like crazy only for her to refuse the bottle (but she didn't get upset) she even slept through for Granny.

Great break to be an adult again, just heart breaking to throw away 32oz of expressed milk!

jamiesam Wed 16-Feb-05 23:04:45

If you think that he'll be happy with his adoring grandma (I suspect that he'll be very happy!) then I should try and steel yourself to go. It will probably do you all some good. I've never left both our ds's with someone other than dh. Am a bit of a scaredy cat mum, but also don't have adoring grandma's around, sadly. Have a lovely time! If you want a gentle lead in - has grandma stayed with you and put him to bed and got him up in the morning before? Might be worth considering as ime that's when they're at their most sensitive. Only if you're as scaredy as me though!

Redhotmamma Wed 16-Feb-05 23:30:49

We left DD for one night when she was ten months and went away quite close by. When she was 15 months we had two nights away abroad and at 17 months I went away for the first time on my own since her birth on a hen weekend for two nights. I think it is best just to go with your gut instinct and not do anything you don't feel comfortable with. NewYearMum do you have to go for the full five nights? They are lucky to have you as a bridesmaid when you are going to be apart from your little one in the first place.

garbo Thu 17-Feb-05 13:38:17

Do it!! Our first weekend away when dd was 10 months was fabulous. OK, I cried before we left, while we were leaving and for the first half an hour in the car - but then once we were there, cracked open the wine, realised we could have a lie in with the newspapers and do exactly what we wanted for a whole weekend, I had a ball. More importantly dd was fine, didn't notice we'd gone and was loving being top dog at grandma's. She loves being with either grandparents (and they love having her) should we want a night out, a weekend away (even four days in Prague earlier this year) and she really doesn't bat an eyelid.
Remember, they have no concept of time. When my sister had been away for 6 days someone asked her dd where her mummy was and she said 'in the kitchen'!

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