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i dont think i am ever going to get a job.....its just impossible...its making me really depressed..i see my house being repossessed

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zippitippitoes Tue 05-Aug-08 10:47:13

.....ive just had to pay out 3k for car repairs

i am living on borowed money

i just cant see me geting a job

i just had my first interview for two years

i am crap at interviews and i did try

i just dont have suitable experience and wherever i look at whatever level i can see that i wont get the jobs because there will always be someone who is better

if i apply for low paid jobs i hear nothing because no one wants me

if i apply for better jobs then i either hear nothing or 3 times in two years i have had interviews and the in terviewers have basically just been mistaken when they asked me and i have been crap

IllegallyBrunette Tue 05-Aug-08 10:49:53

No real advice from me Zippi as I have exactly the same problem.

I really don't know what the answer is tbh.

It is easy to say keep trying, but I know it isn't that easy to do that when you feel you are getting nowhere.

ScottishMummy Tue 05-Aug-08 11:05:04

does connections/job centre run any courses on interview skills?any free college course to brush up interview skills

any previous contacts who can help you
what job did you last do
could you get a similsr post

a lot of interview skills is self belief, being composed and selling yourself. Not easy i know!

sounds as if it is really making you feel low and underapppreciated

good luck

overthemill Tue 05-Aug-08 11:07:42

zippi - this will change. i feel the same at the moment but something will turn up!

have you looked on this website for ideas? not sure where you are tho but their ideas are great.

what happened with your interview last week?

batters Tue 05-Aug-08 11:09:34

zippi .

zippitippitoes Tue 05-Aug-08 11:09:42

i was self employed so really difficult to say i did any oif the things people actaully want and no work references

i have too many useless qualifications

and i am too old

i wouldnt employ me because there is always going to be someone with a mproper cv and appropritae experience skills

so although i could do jobs i just dont compare with other people

it is so hard to get motivated applying for jobs when you know the outcome is usually hearing nothing at all

ScottishMummy Tue 05-Aug-08 11:10:40

job centre plus

more jobcentre plus",

zippitippitoes Tue 05-Aug-08 11:11:27

i didnt get thast job hence feeling low

and that was unusually something which i did have the right kind of cv for but that is just so unusual and it was well paid

no one wants me for a badly paid job so those are a waste of time too

objectivity Tue 05-Aug-08 11:12:05

List your skills here zippi.

It has taken me over 12 months to find Full time work as you probably know but I have FINALLY succeeded.

I was self employed too so I know it is hard.

Do you know what sort of thing you'd like to be doing?

zippitippitoes Tue 05-Aug-08 11:12:17

i dont have any contacts at all

i dont know anyone

overthemill Tue 05-Aug-08 11:13:36

gosh zippi you are down today! can you take some time out and do something nice today? it might make you feel a bit better

then you should think about how you got that interview and why you didnt get the job. ime interviewers will give useful feedback once you are ready to hear it

then maybe a list of what your skills are
your experience
your knowledge

list what you would like to to that pays eg sell make up in boots, run a farm, teach, work in a library

jobcentres plus do have lots of advice available and so do some job sites like monster i thinkl

i think i should go and do this myself

zippitippitoes Tue 05-Aug-08 11:14:52

i listed them before on a previous thread

at least i listed my very patchy qualifications

i am just the classic met husband at uni when i was 19 and floolowed him around as his job got more and more high powerd and i had kids at home

so roll on to early forties he has a mega bucks job and i couldnt get a job anywhere so started a business with my mums inheritance and lost it

roll on 9 years and this is where i am now

overthemill Tue 05-Aug-08 11:15:41

zippi - you know all of us!
i was told when made redundant to list 100 people and send them my cv

didnt do it but when i set up my website i sent an email to every single person i knew and did actually get interest that way from lots of people who told people they knew

no harm in trying

zippitippitoes Tue 05-Aug-08 11:17:25

i am miserable im just lying in bed

ScottishMummy Tue 05-Aug-08 11:19:38

try find a college/JC course on applying for jobs to boost your confidence

ask others to objectively tell you your skills

being self employed you must have been
organised
resourceful
sociable
skilled eg self employed
kept records

what have you been doing?

sahm requires
resourceful
organised
calm
manages finances
exp of childcare

zippitippitoes Tue 05-Aug-08 11:19:50

i think me snd nutty have both been trying for the same amount of time

there have been about loads of anyone can get a job threads if they try on mn in that time and my experience is i just cant

findtheriver Tue 05-Aug-08 11:20:02

zippi - you feel really down on yourself at the moment, and that means other people will view you negatively too.
You were self employed, so you MUST have a set of skills/knowledge etc, even if you find it hard to see that right now. I think you've had some good advice here. You need to start off by writing down what you have to offer.
Then access ALL the advice you can. There's a lot of support out there these days.
Making a list of what ideally you would like to do could be useful in focusing the mind, but also take on board that you may need to do ANYTHING to get back into work.
You are NOT too old!! I have employed people who on the surface might seem 'too old', 'too out of touch' etc but as long as they are the RIGHT person for the role then thats what matters.
Good luck!

zippitippitoes Tue 05-Aug-08 11:21:14

im 51 and basically as far as work goes i have just wasted my life

well as far as everything goes really

everything i do goes wrong

zippitippitoes Tue 05-Aug-08 11:22:46

i was all full of optimism but it doesnt work

ScottishMummy Tue 05-Aug-08 11:24:03

ok deep breath for as long as you keep kicking yourself you wont have the ability to get out the hole of self deprication

Do something decisive and positive

enrol on a job centre course
start a cv

take a rest from it today maybe too raw at the mo

ScottishMummy Tue 05-Aug-08 11:24:06

ok deep breath for as long as you keep kicking yourself you wont have the ability to get out the hole of self deprication

Do something decisive and positive

enrol on a job centre course
start a cv

take a rest from it today maybe too raw at the mo

tiredemma Tue 05-Aug-08 11:24:49

what kind of jobs are you after, and where are you geographically?

objectivity Tue 05-Aug-08 11:26:02

I think you need to do a bit of self affirmation work here lady.

I feel shite today- even with a job - am still in nightie and only have Asda to look forward to.

Can we do a two week swap - decent boyfriend for decent job-? That's what's getting me down,plus fact that new job isn't going to instantly lift us out of poverty.

Fancy listing your stuff again on this thread.

Obviously you have complete admin skills...

ScottishMummy Tue 05-Aug-08 11:27:57

you can obviusly use PC and access internet, and string coherent sentence. so thats a start

Laugs Tue 05-Aug-08 11:29:13

maybe you are trying for too many different types of job and not focusing on one area?

I know this is far easier said than done. But if you decide what level/ area you htink you're most likely to find a job in and then target every one of those jobs going (as well as contact companies on spec) you might have more chance.

I speak from experience. When I was looking for work, I started off aiming high. Failed. Aimed low. Failed. etc etc. It is extremely tiring looking all over the place as every time you have to completely re-write cv to tailor for appropriate job, research all over again for interviews etc.

Also, chances are if you target one particular field/ job level, then the other people you are competing against are the same. Every job you don't get at least strikes one of your competitors off the list. Eventually your turn will come.

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