HELP! Gone back to work (3 Dc's) Only 16 hrs a week but can't get on top of anything!

[josben]

Can anyone guide me on how to organise/ be on top of a household once back at work (p/t)
I seem to be doing house hold stuff until late evening (when I should be relaxing with DH) He does need to help more but he is difficult to motivate!

How can I be a Mum who doesn't need 2 hours clearing/ cleaning before a friend comes over for a coffee!

[LucyJones]

Get everything ready for dc's the night before
Get breakfast table laid night before
Let your standards slide a bit - a bt of dust won't kill you
Don't do housework when dc's are in bed, except loading and unloading washing machine... that way madness lies

[Frizbe]

good advice lj, I'd add maybe loading or unloading dishwasher to that too (if you have one) bar that, go join him, then get him to assist at weekends!

[twofishes]

This is going to sound like Bad Mother territory but depending on the age of your DC's we have a BIG Tidy Up time at the weekend (either day) in the morning for an hour ..with 'prizes' for who does the best job of their bedroom, etc etc...being a Competitive Dad it even gets DP moving!!