Hello all
I am new here. I also do not have a child yet with my husband. We have always decided to do it later. I am 32, 33 next April and he is 40 next year.
Next year we plan to start trying. Which is exciting!
My main concern is what to do when I go back to work. We both have elderly parents, so family support is probably not going to be something we can rely on. He is a site manager so very busy and reasonably well paid. I too earn ok money as a project co-ordinator. I am aware you can have up to a year off, depending on when you go off for maternity leave and I have heard of the vouchers you can get for nursery once the child is a certain age. But what happens in the interim period? I don't expect to go back to work full time, but I think it'll be 3/4 days a week. Now I may have the options of working at home, but again, I assume the child will still need to be cared elsewhere. If I have to travel, my commute is an hour.
It's stressing me out more than actually the thought of having a child. It's probably not the main thing to worry about, but because I have alway "felt in control" with my parenting choice, I would like to forward plan?
I expect everything I earn will go straight to childcare until these vouchers kick in? Negating the point of work? But I want to work.
Also - further on, what do people do about school holidays? Will all our holidays we both have been used for school holidays, meaning we don't get many actual holiday days together?!
I hope I don't sound selfish, but I think when you've been together for a long time without children, the change is so daunting...
I suppose I need a pep talk from you lovely people to get me going wink wink
Thanks - GeenyWeeny
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GeenyWeeny · 30/10/2019 13:55
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