Hi!
This is the first time posting my own thread, hope you can help! And I hope it’s not too long.
I have been a beauty therapist for 10 years and recently I decided to change my career.
I got a dream job as a part time 1:1 teaching assistant with the hope of one day being a teacher. long story short, it has made me so happy. I LOVE the job, it has made me happier in all other aspects of my life and I believe a better mother because It’s given me something for me plus all the time off in school holidays, which my children love.
The hours are only mornings right now but on Friday I was called to see the headteacher and she said she’s so impressed that she’d like to offer me the chance to interview for full time teaching assistant position and get some qualifications at the same time.
I have never considered working full time with my two children still so young. The hours would be 8.30-3 every day. I was very excited and happy to even be offered this and came out feeling over the moon, even if I didn’t take it.
My husband straight away said go for it, we can sort out childcare and not to feel guilty because I have so much time off with them during holidays. (He knows my first worry would be how it would affect my children)
I went to my mums to tell her and my auntie and nan were there. WELL I felt like I had stepped back in time.
My Nan said something like “the question is, would you rather look after other people’s childrens or your own? Wouldn’t your children feel like you’re leaving them all the time etc etc”
When I asked my mum. She said “well I couldn’t have done it”
My auntie said “you don’t want to work full time, you’ll miss too much of them growing up and they’ll remember that”
Ok so they did come out with some of the concerns I had myself anyway. Like could I forgive myself if I constantly missed their assemblies, sports days, school plays. Because I wouldn’t be able to take time off during term time.
It would be an amazing opportunity for me but I don’t want that opportunity if it means it would impact my children’s life so much that they wouldn’t be as close to me.
Can anyone tell me thoughts on this? Being a good mum is my top priority and that my children feel secure and loved. So if taking this opportunity meant they didn’t, my decision would be easy.
Any full time mums have some positive feedback or even teachers? How do you manage to be involved in your children’s school life if you’re always working in your own.
Many thanks!!
P.s I have such an amazing supportive family and we are very close. I think this is the first time they’ve actually hurt my feelings ever. I think their hearts are in the right place.
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Hays1990 · 03/03/2019 09:22
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