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Full time dilema(4 Posts)
I'm having a period of feeling sorry for myself at the moment. I work part time evenings (including every other weekend) to fit around childcare. I currently have DS1 at primary school and DS2 is 3 and has 2.5 hours at nursery a day.
I feel like I'm stuck at the moment. My routine with drop offs and pick ups etc means I feel like I don't actually have much time in the day to get out and do anything with DS2 or spend any meaningful time on my own interests. I also hardly see DS1 the days I'm working because I go to work straight after he gets home. I feel like there is no point me being at home.
We have a few debts and if I went full time in September when DS2 qualifies for 30 free hours, it would make a huge difference to us financially. At the moment all my wages go on bills. I would have to work shifts, I obviously wouldn't be home as much. I used to work full time when DS1 was a baby and hated it. I can't help feeling like if I did go full time I'd wish I was back at home.
I just don't know what would make me happy anymore. I feel like going full time probably wouldn't change much of what I'm unhappy about but I would at least have more money coming in!
Just wondering what others have done in similar situations?
How long would it take you to pay off your debts?
If you went full-time could you put a cap on it, like think: "I'll do this for 2 years and then stop".
Sometimes it's the thought of there being no end-point that can be harmful/tricky.
Or you could bring it down to 6 months or one year.
How would it feel to be debt free?
Eventually both DC will be at school full-time so hopefully you'd have more chunks of time then to work and see them more?
I do think those early years are the hardest. But your DS is 3 now. Only a year or so more of this? Then school? It makes such a big difference when they're both in school. Hopefully then you can switch to day-time?