I'm due to return back to work on Monday after six weeks off sick. I had an emergency op as I had suspected ectopic due to the amount of pain I was in and the result of a scan, however thankfully it was a false alarm and I'm almost 12 weeks now.
The thing is, I only started this job end of August and barely know anyone, including my manager, as it's such a big company. So naturally I'm extremely anxious about returning to work, worried about what people will think of me and how they will be around me.
I'm still not feeling 100%, far from it, so I know I could probably extend my sick note but I'm worried the longer I'm off the worse my anxiety will be.
Does anyone have any advice or been in a similar situation?
My advice would be that everybody's far too wrapped up in their own lives and themselves to worry about what you're doing; especially because it's a big company. I always feel like thinking like this helps me personally when I feel anxious. Congratulations on your pregnancy; you've been through a very worrying time. If anybody judges you for that than they have a serious character flaw and aren't the kind of people whose opinion i'd value. Hope your head up high, look forward to your baby; you haven't done anything wrong. Hopefully your colleagues will have only been concerned for you and will be pleased to see you. This is an exciting time and soon you'll be on maternity leave with your beautiful baby. It's goes so fast!!
I think the worst thing to do is to extend your sick days if you want to stay in the job unless you really not well enough to get back? Otherwise you still have to go through the same thing but worst.
I understand your anxiety, there always be people who get annoyed even to get pregnant. Please remember you have not done anything wrong, try not to over think it and try to get along with your colleagues when you get back for your own sake. I've got colleagues who miss work all the time, no one would comment as they are generally liked by others. It always been like this all of my career time.
Just make sure colleagues aware you had emergency op and needed time to recover etc.
Also you don't need to share while you've been off if you don't want to. Your colleagues don't need to know; it's confidential. Only share with who you want to and who you're comfortable with and don't feel like you have to explain yourself to anybody as you don't. Your managers know that's all that's needed.
@PasstheStarmix thank you so much for your kind words you make a good point about everyone being too wrapped up in their own lives - especially so near to Christmas! I think going back before Christmas whilst everyone is merry and excited would be better than going back in the New Year! Besides if I went back and it was too much at least I would have tried! Thanks again x
@user1470584717 I think you have a point there, it's just hard because some days I feel I could go back to work and others I just need to rest for the day due to pain and fatigue. Hopefully once I'm back I'll be glad for it though and it will be one less worry thank you! x
You are very welcome; exactly it's probably the perfect time and might hopefully be an easier time for you with all of the festivities at the moment. The first day is always the worst but once that's out of the way you'll feel so much better and I think you'll find people will be so preoccupied with a million different things. You'll get back there and think what was I worrying about!?! Have a lovely Christmas, x
@fireflame It went far better than I could have imagined everyone was lovely, some people asked how I was and some people were a little more reserved and just smiled or said hello, but I think that was dependant on the person. I was given a lighter workload and my manager told me if anything was too much he'd understand. I've had a day or two off sick since then too and still had a lot of support.
Most importantly though I felt so much better for being back at work physically and emotionally, and since then I've been working hard and hopefully on my way to a promotion before or after the little man arrives!
I hope all goes we for you the advice above really helped for me x
@louba4 aww that's fantastic well done to you Good luck with pregnancy 💐 And well done regarding promotion 👏🏻👏🏻👏🏻👏🏻👏🏻 Thank you for the feed back much appreciated In my 50's never had a days sick/late from work until now Several deaths in our family one after the other including one suicide I just couldn't cope anymore, however seem to be getting back on track after having some cbt therapy (Amazing) My work have been so understanding and very grateful for that as I love my job So here's hoping that mine goes as well as yours, not due back for another 2 weeks but so nervous.