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Full time studying/ working, guilty and nervous already.

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MindTalks Sat 21-Oct-17 15:09:09

Hello,

I’ve found a university course I’ve got my heart set on, I went to an information day recently to find out more about the course and found it to be more hours than what I thought. It’s: 9-5 at uni one day, 9-2:30 the next. Then I’ll have two days at placement for 9-4:30/5 with one day off.

I’m just worried about the workload, how family life will change and if I’ll cope? I was so excited about starting but family have me doubting myself after some unhelpful comments.

DS1 has additional needs and is at a wonderful recourse base 8:30-3 and can get a taxi to and from school when I start. Then DS2 will need taking to school when he starts in September.

I do feel guilty of the thought of being away from them for so long in the day. Hubby works long hours so he won’t be around to help in the week, I do have family to help but they’re not very dependable, so I will be looking for a childminder.

Hubby isn’t being very supportive, he thinks I won’t be able to cope and isn’t too keen on the costs of childcare. But I so want to do this. The degree lasts 2 years so won’t last forever. Half terms mostly match up give and take a few days and I finish in June for the summer holidays.

Just looking to see how other mums cope and if it is doable. I’m currently studying an access course at home so will need to do Uni in the next year or so before I need to do it again.

Sorry for the long post!

Beansprout30 Sun 22-Oct-17 11:03:55

I posted something similar yesterday, am embarking on a distance learning course to hopefully better my employability but my family are very positive either and it sometimes makes me doubt myself.

I'm determined to do this and prove them all wrong. If it's something you want to do and realistically think you'll be able to manage then you must go for it. You are still you as well as being a mother and a wife, go for it!

bluejelly Sun 22-Oct-17 11:19:37

Do it for you and for your future. That’s not selfish at all - I think a happy, engaged, learning and growing Mum is better for the family than a Mum who feels stuck in life and feels like she’s only there to support others. It’s important to do things for you. Best of luck!

Tinycitrus Sun 22-Oct-17 11:23:19

Do it.

Five years ago I was studying and working nights in a call centre while looking after three children.

Now I am earning so much more in a job that I find challenging but rewarding. And I can afford to give my children opportunities as they grow up.

They might not like you being away so much but you need to keep focused on the bigger prize and they will appreciate what you did for them later on x

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