New Job....need advice please

[SweetMummy911]

Hello

I've been at my current company for nearly 9 years. My job is safe but my progression and career have been stomped since I went on maternity leave with my daughter in 2015.

In January 2015 I was promised a promotion upon fulfilment of certain objectives (which was done in May 2015 one month before my daughter was born). My boss at the time told me that I would get this promotion upon my returm in July 2016. When i returned i found out my promotion was given out to someone else and my job role had changed essentially meaning i had been demoted even though they were very careful not to use that word.

Even though i complained nothing's happened... I am stuck at a dead end. The job is safe, pay is all right and the office is local.

I have been offered a new job - head of department - at a different company. Money is slightly more, flexi time, similar holidays but position is in Manchester which is nearly 50 minutes away.

Concerns I have:
Current job is safe but I'm very unhappy
Current job is local
Pay is better but only 150 extra per month
Position is fab at new place
New company is reputable but smaller
DH is a teacher so zero flexibility when kids are sick.... Current job is very flexible in that regards.

I don't want to rock the boat, current set up is good with 2 young kids... DH feels I'd be great at it and should go for the new job as they are giving me flexi time plus holidays.

Need to give notice in this week if i want ro accept and really don't know what to do!!!!

[yorkshirepuddingandroastbeef]

I'd go for it. I'd say the only downside is that it is farther away. If it doesn't work out you just look for another job.

[PerpendicularVincent]

I would absolutely take the new job.

It's flexible and a promotion - you're stagnating where you are. Good luck!

[KatyBerry]

I'm a few years down the line from you and am the one who stayed. I wish I'd moved. When I eventually did, the massive boost to my confidence in realising how much I knew / could do was fantastic. Unfortunately if a company has sidelined you for being a parent, it won't improve so go somewhere else which hasn't defined you so narrowly

[Hassled]

The only thing that's making me hesitate is the 50 minute commute. How much of an impact will that have on your day to day life?

[GirlElephant]

I would take the new job. Best of luck whatever you decide

[SweetMummy911]

The 50 minute commute coupled with the newness of the role is what worries me. Yes I've been sidelined at my current company but they offer me so much flexibility - i can sleep easy that if my daughter's sick I'm 15 minutes down the road and my current company will not stand in my way. This new company have not given me any reasons to doubt their flexibility but its a different company... Yes it's more money but im finding it hard to justify 150 more a month for much longer commute, less holidays and lesd time with my kids....... But I'm really unhappy at my current company which is why I'm so stuck with this decision

[SheSparkles]

You spend too much time at work to be so unhappy. Your current employer told you what they thought of you with their behaviour over your promotion that didn't happen.
You'll make it work

[SaltySeaBird]

I switched jobs when DD was 18 months old and went from a 10 minute walk to a 1 hour 30 minute commute each way. I don't regret it at all, my new job is far better and has given me far more opportunities. I only go into the office two or three days a week which makes the commute manageable. Your current company haven't shown you any respect and don't seem to value you - time to move on.