I am at a crossroads. I have a good career, one I have done for years, although I have done other jobs previously. I have one 5 year old DD. I find myself envying those mums that don't have to work, but my feminist side says why should it be mums giving up work.
I am feeling like women have again been sold a myth. Women are meant to be equal, but in the majority of couples I know, the women do the majority of the housework and childcare. It is the women who sacrifice their job or career. The men continue as normal. And I don't just mean time wise. It is also usually the mum who keeps track of kids needing new clothes, homework getting done, school activities, booking holidays etc. I have also heard, too often, women say that "we decided I should stay home, because OH earns more", and "my wage would be swallowed up by childcare".
Why shouldn't dads have to try and work part time too? Why shouldn't dads have to try and work school hours? Or is it that really the women WANT to stay home?
I enjoy work but it is very high pressure and a very male environment. Very very few mums do the job and even fewer get promoted. It is known to be a very stressful job, not just me saying it!!
Are you working? Do you enjoy it? Would you make sacrifices in order to give up work? Or is money more important? What if you had no mortgage? We can never get time back and I think I am getting disillusioned with work! I would feel a bit of a failure if I gave up before getting a promotion, but who knows, I might be much happier. My friend has just "retired" in her 40s, although she is doing some dog walking.
Love to hear views on it. I feel a bit of a fraud, as feel too young to be thinking about giving up work, but cannot think of what other work I would do, as I am paid very well now.
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SazzyB100 · 10/06/2016 12:28
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