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VictoriaButler85 Sat 16-Jan-16 11:49:03

I am concerned about the level of commitment I will be able to show to my job after returning from maternity leave.
I will be returning shortly after 3 months off and think i will feel guilty about leaving my daughter with her grandparents. This will make me unhappy at work.
Should I leave my job? Any one with experience have any advice?

NoodleNuts Mon 18-Jan-16 15:01:19

Can you extend your maternity leave and have a bit longer off rather than quit completely?

VictoriaButler85 Mon 18-Jan-16 19:53:11

I don't think it would please my boss, but I need to prioritize my daughter over my work so I will look into extending my maternity leave as it seems like a reasonable option.

SuperMomma77 Mon 18-Jan-16 23:06:43

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BanningTheWordNaice Mon 18-Jan-16 23:10:28

Supermomma77 what the fuck?

marymotherofchrist55 Mon 18-Jan-16 23:24:28

Suppermomma 77 you are right, what kind of mother leaves their children with grand parents. Our farther God, allows you to let them his or her grandparents however for you to leave the child with him or her is sinful!!! You may go to hell.. I pray for you, stay at home with your child then the Lord will bless you, and will give you eternal life. Xxxx

SuperMomma77 Mon 18-Jan-16 23:34:03

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Ughnotagain Mon 18-Jan-16 23:35:12


Anyway OP. How long have you been back at work? Could it just be you need a bit of time to find your feet again?

marymotherofchrist55 Mon 18-Jan-16 23:40:48

Ughnotagqin what are you trying to imply about me? Victoria you must make your decision in the eyes of the Lord our God, have you asked the farther or was it just a one night stand? xx

Ughnotagain Mon 18-Jan-16 23:45:10

You're all mad as a box of frogs. Either that or a load of sock puppets... hmm

BackforGood Mon 18-Jan-16 23:49:00

I've no idea what she said in the first (deleted) post, but I've reported the 2nd one.

OP, please ignore this poster.

If I were you I wouldn't make any rash decisions. It doesn't matter when you go back to work but, that time when you leave your dc for the first time is difficult for the vast majority of parents. You may very well find that once you are actually in work, you are busy and the day passes very quickly. If you are confident that whoever you choose to leave your dc with is kind and loving and doing a great job for you, then it's not so bad being at work - it's just about being in a routine smile

Give it a try. If you don't get used to it after about 3 months, then you can re-look at your options then - maybe part time would be another option rather than leaving altogether?

SuperMomma77 Mon 18-Jan-16 23:52:45

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marymotherofchrist55 Tue 19-Jan-16 00:01:54

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SnuffleGruntSnorter Tue 19-Jan-16 00:08:28

trip traps over the bridge extra loudly to aggravate some of the above posters
Please ignore them, OP.

Sorry you feel you have to return to work so quickly or not at all. Can you arrange a meeting with your employer - you're entitled to take a year of maternity leave if you wish, and you have the right to return to work afterwards. Your employer might not like It but that's the law.

ChristineDePisan Tue 19-Jan-16 00:16:16

Sheesh it's odd on this thread!

Anyway, OP - it's normal to feel worried about missing your baby when you go back to work, but I second the poster who said that when you are actually at work you might find that the time passes quite quickly and you even enjoy being away from them - I know that I am a better mother for not being with my children 24/7. You have got various options to explore within the statutory framework, including extending your maternity leave and requesting a change in your working pattern eg to go part time or working from home on occasion. Do work through these before handing in your notice.

VictoriaButler85 Tue 19-Jan-16 17:16:48

I'm glad of the genuine advice which will prove very useful to me even if it was surrounded by upsetting and unpleasant comments from which I shall take no notice. Freedom of speech can go to far.

SnuffleGruntSnorter Tue 19-Jan-16 17:30:43

I reported them all and am surprised that only half of them were deleted to be honest. There is freedom of religious expression and then there is just nastiness. And irrelevant nastiness at that.

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