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Hiddenbiscuits Wed 02-Apr-14 19:42:39

I really cant decide between 2 jobs, informally offered both although nothing in writing yet. Which would you choose?

1) 9-5 term time only. Not such a bonus now as DD is at nursery and no option to not pay for holidays. However, when she starts school next year it will be great not looking for childcare. Better paid than job 2 but would need £500 more childcare per month for nursery fees. Minimal commute.

2) 2x long days per week. Could be days/nights, weekends/ weekdays. Less money per month but wouldn't need to pay for anymore childare than i an already paying so take home pay similar to job 1. Approx 1 hour commute.

I'm going round and round thinking of pros and cons for each, and just cant decide. Both are interesting jobs

Which one would you choose and why? Please help me decide before they both withdraw their offers! I have pre-school DD if that influences your decision, was hoping for a second by now but thats looking less and less likely unfortunately.

LittleMilla Wed 02-Apr-14 19:44:25

I'd go for 1. Long term it sounds more sustainable and I know that I'd get bored quite quickly being home alone once children are at school.

ishouldcocoa Wed 02-Apr-14 19:45:53

I'd go for job No1 if DD is going to school next year.
Reasons - no commute (which would off set the £500 a month that you'll have to afford for a while), its better paid, and you know you'll always see DD every holiday.

fatedtopretend Wed 02-Apr-14 19:48:47

Firstly, are they both jobs you want to take equally?

Have you checked if you qualify for tax credits to help with childcare?

Personally, I would take job A.
My dd is due to start school in September and I would give anything to be able to spend the school holidays with her.
That isn't just for the 'fun things', she would actually get a break from being in childcare though.

Dd already complains that it's 'another' school day and it feels like I'm not giving her the chance to have those prolonged periods of mum/daughter times that you get when you have the school holidays off.

I hope you come to a happy decision.

HopefulHamster Wed 02-Apr-14 19:51:28

Term-time and no commute? Definitely option 1!

Hiddenbiscuits Wed 02-Apr-14 20:06:54

Oh thats really interesting thank you, i thought most people would say go for the long day and get it over with! I do like the stability of job 1 but would be difficult never being allowed time off in the term time... Things like settling DD into school next year, doing homework in the evenings, breakfast and after school club every day etc. I'm not complaining by any means, jut a few things to consider

Hiddenbiscuits Wed 02-Apr-14 20:09:27

On the other hand nights are a killer!

fatedtopretend Wed 02-Apr-14 20:20:59

You would have (please correct me of I'm wrong) around 12 weeks per year fully with your dd with job 1.

With the other, yes you'd have the odd week day but once dd is at school these days would still be in a routine that is governed by the school year.

Homework etc can be done, at this age especially, within an hour once you are in and you can use it as catch up about school with dd time too.

With you being off in the holidays you can use the time to cultivate friendships for you and dd.

Sorry if you've already mentioned but do you have a dp?

Hiddenbiscuits Wed 02-Apr-14 21:00:24

Hi thanks for your message, yes i have a DP he works quite long hours monday to friday. I have family close by who can help out in an emergency. So you think play dates in the holidays would be ok rather than after school? Are many kids is wraparound care at school 5 days per week or is that quite uncommon? I hope the days wouldn't be too tiring for her, but i guess kids adjust quickly smile

IncognitoIsMyFavouriteWord Wed 02-Apr-14 21:05:28

Term time job definitely

bumpybecky Wed 02-Apr-14 21:15:38

job 1

term time only and minimal commute - both brilliant

Flibbertyjibbet Wed 02-Apr-14 21:35:01

A lot of kids are in childcare 5 days a week and also have to go to holiday out-of-school clubs for most of the school holidays too.

If your dd is in nursery now, starting school in sept, then you have only 4 months left to pay nursery anyway.

You may be able to arrange swaps with another family, ie your dd goes there one night a week after school, you help them out during the holidays.

If you work term time only then no, you won't be able to take time off during term time but with a child in school anyway under the new regulations.....

fatedtopretend Wed 02-Apr-14 21:44:30

Honestly, up until now I have been answering as a lone parent, after finding out you have a dp with long hours it makes me favour job a even more. Your dd will love having a reliable schedule during term time and during the holidays-eg. Dad works lots and sees you when he can, he does this to make sure we have a home and money to spend on things. You also need to work to pay for all of these things but "mummy is lucky enough to be able to ask her work to let her spend our time off school together"

I would really think about quality time. Evenings and weekends don't give much, I really hope this helps

Hiddenbiscuits Wed 02-Apr-14 21:44:56

Sorry if i wasn't clear, school is next year (2015)

Hiddenbiscuits Wed 02-Apr-14 21:46:44

Thats a good point actually, other families may benefit from me being off in the holidays, and so willing to do some childcare in term time.

I'm glad i asked on here, its good to see different perspectives!

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