I have three DC aged 6, 4 and 2. I used to be a software engineer, and was progressing nicely up the career ladder into more senior roles when I became a SAHM mostly due to the financial constraints of two DC in childcare but also because I fancied it for a few years too, especially with the DC being so little.
I went back to work fulltime after DC1, but have not stepped foot in an office since July 2008 when I ended up taking the last three months of my pregnancy off sick due to massive pregnancy complications. So I haven't worked in my old software engineering career for almost five years. I now want to go back to it as my 4 year old starts school in September which makes things more doable financially especially as DH's IT career, once way behind mine, has since gone meteoric whilst mine has languished at the bottom of the nappy bin
I can "fudge" dates on my CV to April 2009, which was when I took a generous voluntary redundancy package (company has now as good as dissolved so I can't go back there) during my maternity leave, as I was still technically employed. But that still leaves a four year black hole.
During that time, besides the usual undervalued 24/7 mothering, I ran my own part-time photography business for a few years which pretty much resulted in a net loss (go me..) as I was afraid to charge what I was worth, and have done a bit of freelance online-based software testing work for basically pin money but at least it's in roughly the right sort of area.
My big question is this. I know I shouldn't mention the children. I can probably fill the gap in my CV with the photography business and the testing stuff, but how is that going to look to a potential employer? Whether at CV or if I'm lucky, interview stage? They are going to ask for sure. Without knowing about the children, it just looks like I fancied being wishy-washy for a bit with no commitment to being a software engineer at all and I'd be likely to clear off again (NOT true) if something more interesting came up. Whereas the truth was that these were jobs that fitted around our financial circumstances at the time (they had no requirement for childcare) and allowed me to be at home when the children were very tiny. Surely they're going to want to ask why I now want to return? And why did I take a step back (basic testing work versus senior developer?)
I should add that I'm stupidly honest by nature and would be crap at lying about anything, even by omission. And I would not want to work for a company that takes a dim view of families, but at the same time I don't want to mess up my chances altogether. It does not help that software engineering is dominated by men, so they probably don't encounter many mothers returning to work and would not know what to do with one.
By mentioning the truth about being a mother it makes the gap seem reasonable, the job choices sensible, and there's also no question over my future motivations, but it seems from all I have read here and elsewhere that by mentioning my children I reduce my chances of employment dramatically.
It's not bloody fair.
What should I do?
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5 years of SAHM, can fill "gap" with stuff but it's going to look bizarre! Help!
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CrispyBF · 21/05/2013 18:53
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