I have a dilemma - I now have two children under 3. I'm currently on mat leave. Do I go back to my part time role and swallow the immense nursery costs and hassle of getting two children there solo in the mornings. Or do I stay at home and accept I'll struggle to get back into a similar role with such an employment gap.
I know that I'd also struggle to find part time work some where else that paid as well for a similar role.
I have a pension and shares with the company.
The first time around when I returned to work after having DD I found the person who had been hired to cover my maternity leave was now doing my job and I was given tasks that he didnt want to do and treated very much as his junior. I have been with the company approaching 10 years and when I left was in a senior role. Effectively I've been demoted.
There is a culture of get in early and work late. If you're not at your desk you're not working. Not entirely family friendly although it does depend if your face fits on occasions and some people manage to get round this.
Being part time I was made to feel bad about coming in to the office at 8:45 - the earliest I could manage with nursery drop offs. A few tutts and 'afternoons' were muttered.
When I announced I was pregnant again after a year the news wasn't received very well by my team. It was as if they felt I'd let them down again. I was given even less of the more interesting projects and more of the mundane.
There's been a change of manager since I've been away - I only found this out through the grapevine - so there is a chance things may improve. The new manager has children of his own so could be more understanding. I haven't met him though and he hasn't been in touch.
Although i will always put my children first I feel I'm good at what I do and would feel I'd let myself down if I gave up everything I'd worked and trained for.
Better the devil you know or quit whilst I can??
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Octonautstotherescue · 01/05/2013 23:36
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