Started back at work this week for the first time in 6 years. I'm loving it - the DCs are at primary school and although I work every day I get to drop them off and pick them up.
Over the last two days various issues have cropped up which I have expected DH to deal with as they have arisen while I'm at work; he's self employed and not around much but is able to help out as he's pretty much his own boss. However, he's used to me managing everything so it didn't occur to him immediately that he should deal with it.
Our house is not immaculate (I'm talking a pile of washing in the kitchen and kids' toys, not a 'How Clean is Your House' job.) The garden's a muddy mess as we have a big dog, but we'll deal with it when we have the time and the DCs play in the park anyway.
MIL just rang to see 'how things were going.' She told me that DH could not be expected to take any more of a share in the running of the house and care of the DCs because 'he's a man and he doesn't know how to think like we do.' And that she and my FIL 'don't like what they see' happening in our family. Prior to this she's told me my return to work is 'selfish'. I've gone back because I want to and I enjoy my profession - we're OK for money at the moment from DH's job but I'm also thinking about my NI contributions, what happens to us all if something happens to him...
I think she's a.) insulting my DH (and men in general) with this attitude and b.) stepping waaaay over the mark in her criticism.
(We get on well in general but she's known for being a 'speak as I find' type.)
AIBU for feeling cross and upset?
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Argh! Ranty, sorry...
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MissBetseyTrotwood · 16/01/2013 19:56
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