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Help! G and T daughter getting very worked out if she finds things don't live up to her high standards

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doiwant3 · 11/02/2009 13:14

Hi
I am looking for any advice please! DD, aged 7, is a gorgeous girl, sensible (mostly), kind and thoughtful. And very clever, as her teacher says she is "fanastic at everything" and she is in all the top groups, taken out for extra maths etc. The problem is that if she ever finds something difficult, or if she does something (eg in art class) which she doesn't think is up to her high standards, then she cries and goes hysterical (this is even though whatever it is usually is very good!) It seems to be happening more and more in school, and I don't know what to do about it.
Please help if you have any thoughts!

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Bink · 11/02/2009 13:20

I think perfectionism is very common with very bright children - have definitely heard of it a lot.

One lateral suggestion is for you to get her doing something she is genuinely not automatically great at, so that this expectation of success she's of course developed gets 're-set', giving her a chance to see that things can be perfectly fine (and fun) to get involved with even if you are not a natural. What that would be would depend on her of course - for one MNer's dd, I think it was swimming (ie, that didn't come naturally, but turned out to be fun anyway).

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