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Did you ever wish they were just normal?

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jabberwocky Thu 13-Sep-07 18:30:51

That sounds awful, I know, but sometimes it's just so hard I now understand why there are support groups for parents of gifted children. Ds1 is brilliant but has all the classic personality quirks of G&T and sometimes I just want to scream. He is so intensely sensitive to things and yet at the same time insensitive to others at times (err, mainly ME). I go from being in awe of his intellect to wanting to...well, being rather upset. His brother is soooo much easier and happier.


<jabber thunks head on desk>

Cammelia Thu 13-Sep-07 18:31:40

I think your child is normal.

jabberwocky Thu 13-Sep-07 18:35:33

Hmmm, guess you should see him interact with his peers, then.

Cammelia Thu 13-Sep-07 18:37:03

Has he been labelled or daignosed in some way?

jabberwocky Thu 13-Sep-07 18:39:34

What do you mean? As in is he really gifted? Yes, he is.

Cammelia Thu 13-Sep-07 18:40:47

I just mean that there is surley an enormous rsnge of normal with your dc possibly at one end of it.

ladygrinningsoul Thu 13-Sep-07 19:17:08

My mother actually said to me, when I was in my teens, that she wished she'd had a normal daughter. That really hurt.

I don't think you really do wish he was normal. But I bet you wish he had a pause button.

pointydog Thu 13-Sep-07 19:30:38

what's normal?

jabberwocky Thu 13-Sep-07 20:04:03

A pause button! That's it!!! I knew someone, somewhere would get where I was coming from

twocutedarlings Thu 13-Sep-07 20:40:58

I know where your coming from JW, my DD is just like this to, Question after Question after Question after Question after Question after Question after. (does this sound familiar) grin.

Sh*t where the Bl**dy pause button wink lol

seeker Thu 13-Sep-07 20:46:32

My dcs are neither gifted nor talented - but they still ask a lot of questions and they still exhaust me and they still need proper answers and they still lack a pause button. Can't see how it's any different, actually. Maybe parents need a support group......

jabberwocky Thu 13-Sep-07 21:56:43

twocute, IIRC I think I posted on a thread of yours not too long ago? About really sensitive kids?

Pan Thu 13-Sep-07 22:04:06

Oh jabs yes.

dd famously started a stream with me, lasting about one hour, 75 questions or so, starting with "How do lobsters talk to each other?" and ending with "Why don't rabbits wear crash helmets?" << the last one I answered with 'there is nowhere to put their ears>> In exasperation I turned round to her sat in the back of the car - she was 3- and smashed into a parked car.....

this prompted the further question..."Did you just make in a hole in the car, Daddy?"

I think she was taking the piss.hmmgrin

spinspinsugar Thu 13-Sep-07 22:15:35

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Reallytired Thu 13-Sep-07 22:21:01

Prehaps with the questions you need to turn it back to them and ask them what they think and why? It will develop their thinking skills.

To be honest most children ask incessant questions. If they didn't then they will would have major special needs.

I just watched "Born to be different". Its a bit like Child of Our Time except that it follows the lives of 6 children with major special needs. Their parents really have it hard.

Pan Thu 13-Sep-07 22:23:52

Prehaps with the questions you need to turn it back to them and ask them what they think and why?"
oh the voice of reason and innocence!! IT's like being in 'nam!!

pointydog Thu 13-Sep-07 22:29:57

incessant questions aren't unusual

haychee Thu 13-Sep-07 22:30:02

I wish i had a pause button for my non g&t 2dds! They NEVER stop, and whats worse they talk over eachother, to ask questions about this that and all the others!
Sometimes i get fed up and say fgs just blurt out, stop talking! They arent being naughty or nosey their just learning. But i agree, sometimes its just too much.

KerryMum Thu 13-Sep-07 22:39:35

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seeker Thu 13-Sep-07 22:44:34

Well, she hasn't given any other examples of the g&t-ness! I do so ish nobody had ever thought of the label!

tori32 Thu 13-Sep-07 22:46:49

What makes a child G and T? I think my 20mth old dd may be g and T.

haychee Thu 13-Sep-07 22:48:39

I wasnt meaning to give her a hard time. I really really do wish i had a pause button, actually 2!

spinspinsugar Thu 13-Sep-07 22:51:27

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jabberwocky Thu 13-Sep-07 22:52:27

Hey Pan! <waves enthusiastically>

errr, actually I don't think I gave any examples of his giftedness - questions or otherwise. I was just looking for a little support from parents of similar children. There are a number of idiosyncrasies that tend to be specific to them but I didn't particularly feel like listing them, just wanted to vent a bit, really.

spinspinsugar Thu 13-Sep-07 22:52:36

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