DS, age 5, has just started primary school. This is in NI so I think it might be equivalent of Reception in England and Wales.
Before that he was in pre-school, crèche and with a childminder. From a very very early age we've been told he is very advanced but as he is our only child we've nothing really to compare it to. He walked early and talked early. Some of the conversations he has blow me away.
I'm not sure if he is, what would traditionally be described as, a "bright child". He isn't advanced with reading, but is quite advanced. However, his logic is amazing. He is constantly drawing inventions. His most recent invention is a buoy in the sea with a radio transmitter that can send signals to ships coming into the area to let them know if the seas are rough or calm. He is working on an invention that will warn children in Syria when an air strike is about to happen (he watches a lot of news and loves current affairs, history, geography etc).
Our problem is at school there have been complaints about his behaviour. I think he struggles with making friends so seems to be attracted to boisterous children and he seems to get a bit carried away/doesn't know what is appropriate. I think this is a lot to do with wanting to be liked. I've witnessed him talking to other children and feel sorry for him when they don't respond - I think because they don't "get him".
Teacher is saying things like he will not stand still in class line or doesn't respond when told what to do. (for this he is being put in time out/in the sad cloud). We've explained to him that he must do as he is told. In terms of work we've had a few problems He was told he wasn't allowed to do more than the homework allocated for each night. This is because we worked on one night because he didn't want to do the colouring in but really wanted to learn more letters. The teacher said she encourages colouring in to improve fine motor skills but his fine motor skills are very advanced - he is building Lego with very small pieces that I cannot manage.
He is also being told when doing his phonics that he isn't allowed to write down words that don't start with the letter - for example we were doing the letter e for homework and he came up with Merry, but he wouldn't write it in his book because e was the second letter and not the first.
I'm so worried about him and school stifling his thirst for learning but more concerned about him being labelled as a "naughty" child. They also discussed "formal intervention" for his behaviour.
We don't know if we should have a formal assessment as perhaps there are some behavioural issues that need to be addressed. We have a parent teachers meeting in the next few weeks and don't know what to do for the best.
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Justsurviving1 · 12/11/2016 13:41
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