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Year 2 becoming precocious

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DesperatelySeeking2016 Fri 09-Sep-16 22:03:44

I'm not even sure the Dd is gifted and talented but she is bright. The problem is that she has just started year 2 and is starting to realise that she is doing different stuff to the other children. Since school started on Tuesday she has said,
'oh I don't have the spelling sheet because I have already moved on to the year 2 words',
'I'm the only free reader in my class',
'miss xxx said that I had to do this task even though I wanted to do the other one',
'I was the only person to get a certificate from the headteacher'
'Year 2 is just the same as year 1 and I know all that, when will we learn new things'.
And about a million other statements.
I have my concerns that at the moment she is not developing any resilience because she has not had to try yet but my main concern is i don't want her to turn into an arrogant nightmare who thinks she is better than everyone else!
So far we have congratulated her on her success (for getting the certificate), emphasised that everyone is good at different things, reminded her that practise is important (her cartwheels were terrible and she has worked all summer to improve them and they are now passable) and said that it is important to spend the beginning of the year revising old work to remind everyone about it but what else can we do to help her become a humble person?

cece Fri 09-Sep-16 22:09:26

Read up about fixed mindset versus growth mindset and praise effort rather than attainment.

DesperatelySeeking2016 Fri 09-Sep-16 22:34:39

Thank you! I have read about mindset and a fixed mindset is currently my biggest fear. Unfortunately she currently has never had to try so praising her effort is a bit fruitless. This is why we praise her effort with physical stuff and again this worries me - she still can't ride a bike because she can't do it and doesn't persevere. I think she definitely has a fixed mindset and so when it does eventually get hard I'm not sure how she will cope sad.

cece Fri 09-Sep-16 22:47:28


irvineoneohone Sat 10-Sep-16 00:11:52

I had same worry about my ds, everything came so easy/effortless for him.
But I know eventually he will get something he needs to work hard at.
He doesn't like to put effort in something he doesn't like.
He started learning piano last school year, which seems to be working quite well. He loves it, but he knows he needs to practice and can't give up just because he can't get it right easily. I just hope he perseveres.

DesperatelySeeking2016 Sat 10-Sep-16 07:02:52

Cece that is a fab link, thanks!

Blue4ever Sat 10-Sep-16 19:05:48

Op the start of a new academic year is often spent reviewing stuff from the previous year and allows the teacher to assess each child. You will probably find that things will settle in the coming weeks and that your dd will be given more challenging work. The growth mindset theory is really good and we are using it with both our children this year, dh is a teacher and he is integrating it in his teaching. There is lots of information about it on YouTube.

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