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Nursery isn't pushing my son enough

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poco2015 Sun 15-Nov-15 16:53:12

I am not sure what to do. My son is in full time nursery, he is 2 and a bit. He has begun blending and is reading cvc words and sounding out to help him. He is fantastic at numbers can count to 20 (and beyond when he feels like it) can understand the concept of taking away and adding (with objects). We have been doing doubling and halving at home which he can do but sometimes doubles when you say halve and halves when you say double, but we have been doing this for only a week so he is still bound to make mistakes. At the moment when the preschoolers do phonics and maths time DS goes in with them, I keep asking for them to help him with his fine motor but they say they are, but we are not seeing much improvement and what they are doing seems to be very basic. wwyd as i don't want to come across as too much of a controlling mum. I already pushed to get him into the preschoolers room for the phonics and maths

LonnyVonnyWilsonFrickett Sun 15-Nov-15 16:54:46

What do you think would be the advantage of nursery pushing your son?

Whattheuh Sun 15-Nov-15 16:55:39

He's still very young,I would let him enjoy free play and fresh air at that age.if he's gifted he'll have no problem catching up once he starts school.

IAmAPaleontologist Sun 15-Nov-15 16:55:55

He is 2. The most important thing in his life right now is to have the freedom to play.

If you want to do reading etc with him then by all means do it at home when you are reading bed time stories, do some numeracy when you do the shopping or slice a cake. But just let the child play.

dementedpixie Sun 15-Nov-15 16:56:13

He's at nursery not school. Leave him in peace to play

FannyFifer Sun 15-Nov-15 16:56:56

Are you for real, he's at nursery, they are not teachers, let him play, he is 2 for goodness sake..

usual Sun 15-Nov-15 16:56:58

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TheCountessofFitzdotterel Sun 15-Nov-15 16:56:58

Ease off. Seriously.

TurnOffTheTv Sun 15-Nov-15 16:57:07

This is a very sad post, he's only tiny, let him play.

Palehorse Sun 15-Nov-15 16:57:25

Is this your first child? I think you need to give him a break and stop pushing him so hard.

LonnyVonnyWilsonFrickett Sun 15-Nov-15 16:57:23

Sorry, sent too soon. I'd imagine you aren't seeing a difference in his fine motor skills because he's simply a 2 yo who needs to reach physical maturity in order to improve his fine motor?

What have nursery said about it?

SpendSpendSpend Sun 15-Nov-15 16:57:32

Bloody hell, what is this, an army camp???

Zucker Sun 15-Nov-15 16:58:16

He's 2. 24 whole months old. How about letting him learn through play. It's quite the thing I hear.

elQuintoConyo Sun 15-Nov-15 16:58:45

He is 2?

I'd back off. Let him be 2.

trixymalixy Sun 15-Nov-15 16:58:46


UmbongoUnchained Sun 15-Nov-15 16:58:46

Poor kid

PurpleDaisies Sun 15-Nov-15 16:59:01

Of course what he is doing seems very basic. He is two.

HeartsTrumpDiamonds Sun 15-Nov-15 16:59:32

Poor child. Let him be 2 FFS.

lexigrey Sun 15-Nov-15 16:59:37

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Minniemagoo Sun 15-Nov-15 16:59:52

You seem to be doing loads at home (for a 2 year old) so why not let nursery be his fun zone?
At 2 no nursery is going to go beyond preschool level with him, this would need to be 1 to 1. Unless you want to pay for private tutor/nanny you.might be best allowing nursery to focus on his social skills.
Poor kid will be bored to tears when he goes to phonics with his peers all over again.

Etak15 Sun 15-Nov-15 17:00:59

Sounds like he's already 2/3 yrs ahead, I agree nursery should be for play and learning how to socialise, you can always do the extras with him at home if you wish.

FoxesSitOnBoxes Sun 15-Nov-15 17:02:16

I think it's lovely that your son is doing so well and that it's great that he enjoys letters and numbers but that pushing him at such a young age is really not necessary. Let him learn how to be friends and play with his peers so that he is happy socially by the time he starts school.

Naoko Sun 15-Nov-15 17:02:34

He's two. He's learning how to interact socially with other children and be away from his mum and share toys and eat in company and a thousand other things. If he's a smart kid that will out regardless, give him this time to play and learn all that other important stuff.

MiscellaneousAssortment Sun 15-Nov-15 17:03:09


You seem to be doing loads at home (for a 2 year old) so why not let nursery be his fun zone?

AtSea1979 Sun 15-Nov-15 17:03:18

Oh dear another pfb parent who thinks her son is gifted. Come back in ten years time. When he bored from learning because you pushed him too hard and he isn't interested in GCSEs. Lots of boys do this at two. OP what are his peer relationships like? Does he like getting messy? Does he have an imagination?

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