It's a russian proverb, and I was wondering whether it matches people's experience. And if so, whether you think it's due to genetics or upbringing.
My family experience does seem to follow that rule:
- I'm probably in between my parents in intelligence (would have been considered gifted at school if it had existed then, but in an ordinary way). My brother has a truly exceptional mind, as does my mother. My brother's daughter also seems very able (only 5 so too young to tell) whereas his son is bright but perhaps not unusually so.
- My DH and his siblings also seem to follow the pattern. 2 boys and 2 girls - both boys are in intellectually challenging professions, one sister is in a not-so-intellectual profession, and the other is in unskilled work. DH's mother is more academically able than his father.
I'm not sure whether it's inbuilt or cultural though. Perhaps something along the lines of relationships between father/daughter or mother/son being more relaxed, which means the higher quality parental input from the cleverer parent is concentrated on the opposite gender children?
My mum was closer to my brother than to me as we were growing up, and I was closer to my father. But that may well have been due to our differences rather than the cause of them! I certainly feel my brother and I had similar opportunities. In DH's family, DMIL is lovely, but has fairly traditional gender views, and almost certainly had different expectations for her sons and daughters. She really values education though, and pushed all 4 in that direction.
So how about you - how is it in your family?
This is just idle curiosity, by the way! Obviously it's only going to be anecdotal, and not really very important: I certainly don't think intelligence is the most important thing about a person! Just think it's fun to think about, and see if any pattern emerges.