I'm just wondering how you all cope with other people's reactions to your DC?
DD is gifted I think, although not to the extent of some of the DC mentioned here. All the usual things - talking early, walking early, asking questions to get more and more detail, never forgetting anything, able to use information thus gleaned to combine with other information previously obtained to ask more detailed questions, reading early and now reading for information - she's basically turned herself into the data-processing version of the Very Hungry Caterpillar, and every day is Saturday. I'm sure you're all familiar with the routine!
The thing is I feel I have to sort of hide it from everyone else, because their kids aren't like DD in that they tend not to know more than their parents in their many fields of interest, and they tend not to just sort of accidentally let you know that they've taught themselves to read, for example. Even my parents seem to not really get DD, and talk to her as though she were perhaps younger than her chronological age, whereas we talk to her at a level appropriate for her mental age, so she doesn't 'get' it when they talk to her. They will ask her the sort of questions you might ask a little kid to get them to talk like 'What colour is x?' and she will look totally flummoxed. I'm not sure if she's trying to work out if it's a trick question, or why they need to ask her something they must know, but it develops into a downward spiral because when she doesn't answer, or asks one of us to tell them, my parents then assume she doesn't know, so ask her an 'easier' question. I guess it doesn't help they don't see her as often as I'd like and she tends not to let on how much she knows unless she's totally relaxed. I've told them the things she says and does and the questions she asks, but it's like it doesn't sink in.
Obviously a lot of my friends have children too, but I don't tell them either because I don't want them to think I am being boastful. I've put videos on facebook of her running about the park that have had lots of likes, but when I put a video of her reading her first reading book that pre-school gave her it got almost completely ignored. I don't want to project too much, but it's as though people can relate to a pre-school kid running about and climbing on stuff, but when they see the same kid reading fluently they get uneasy.
I guess I am just upset (with myself or society or both, I'm not sure) that when she does things that make me burst with pride I feel I can't tell anyone. And I can't even tell you lot of strangers because with her specific areas of interest it'd possibly maker her identifiable. It makes me more sad that she seems to have picked up on it a bit, and since she started pre-school seems a lot more wary of expressing herself unless it's with one of us.
Anyway, that was a lot longer than I anticipated. Thanks for reading, those of you who still are :)
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Unable to tell anyone about your DC?
HattyJack · 13/08/2013 11:34
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