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Feel a bit daft asking this but.. my DD who is 20 has just got a "serious" boyfriend and I know she is now on the pill- she's at uni.
Should they also be using condoms to prevent STIs and other stuff like her exposure to HPV/cervical cancer?
I know that she has had very little if any sexual encounters before, but not sure about him.
We are fairly close so I want to have "the chat" with her.
When I was in my youth, I did the pill and condoms but not together, as in those days AIDS/HIV etc etc was not prevalent and neither was the connection establsihed between multiple partners and cervical cancer.
Just want to stay up to date with best health advice.
I disagree about it being too late or not saying owt to keep your nose out of her sex life.
I work in sexual health and think the message needs to be consistent from everywhere and I know when I was 20 I probably would have considered sleeping with someone I was in a relationship with if I was on the pill - it's now I know the stats that I wouldn't dream of it. Also condoms don't protect against ALL STI's so screening is a definite too.
DH and I had moved in together before we went without condoms and that was after 2 full clear sexual health screens. But think that was more because of my knowledge and career rather than any general built in safe sex knowledge from my early twenties so defo worth a chat with her.
Thandeka, this poster has posted this, and admitted on this thread to being a particularly poisonous troll with a proclivity for drawing out people's sex stories, when not killing threads in Bereavement with their own brand of fantasy. That is why I was terse.
I wasn't suggesting your daughter was having sex at 14/6years ago, I was suggesting you should have had this talk with herback then or started being more open with her about sex then so that by the age in which she got a steady boyfiend it would have been very much known to her about these things.