I had a 2nd degree tear which was very sore but healed ok, no infections etc. I said at the time I thought they had stitched me a little too well and joked about having had free plastic surgery.
At 10 weeks we had sex and it hurt like hell. Left it a bit longer, still hurt. Tried to do it a bit more frequently as had been told the scar tissue does stretch a little eventually but I am in agony everytime and it feels like I'm too small for DH now iykwim. It seems to be getting worse not better as we tried again last night and I had to stop it.
Do not put up with this. Go to your GP asap and ask to be referred to a gynae. Poor stitching post childbirth is a common complication. You also had a second degree tear originally and it needs further attention asap.
Have you had a...erm...feel to see if there's a mild prolapse?? You should feel nothing, if you feel a ring then it's a prolapse and he's (sorry) 'bumping' into it. (again, sorry) Have you tried using a pillow under your bum to see if this helps??
It's not supposto hurt. It sounds like a traumatic birth. Your GP can help.
It isn't supposed to hurt but likewise this can have absolutely nothing to do with poor stitching or traumatic birth. I had this following birth of DD1 (fairly sizeable tear) and it was due to my body creating too much scar tissue. I was referred and had a Fenton's Op ... which is where they lasered off the excess scar tissue and actually they did a slight cut as well. It healed fine this time and no more painful sex.
I then went on to have another DC and no tears or stitches.
Go to GP asap and get referred ... it is such a simple procedure and it'll all feel soooo much better.