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Are early abortions any more justifiable than later ones?
I know this is a really emotive subject and don't want to be massively criticised for opening a heated debate but just wondered what others thought on very very early abortions, i.e. less than 5/6 weeks. I have just found out I am pregnant and contemplating whether or not I can go through with an abortion. I know I just couldn't do it after about 8/9 weeks as it starts to look like a baby then, and certainly not at 12 weeks when it's fully formed. Does having it earlier make any difference? I think I am 2 weeks max and if I did want to go ahead would want to have it asap (via the abortion pill as I understand that surgical abortions aren't available until 8 weeks). Just trying to get it clear in my head.
I guess it depends why.... This topic is going to be polarised, I'm guessing. Personally it wouldn't make a difference to me, not decision wise anyway, but it would be easier to think I was getting rid of a cluster of cells than something that resembles a baby. The sooner you can decide the less hormones to deal with and the less invasive the procedure. Good Luck
The earlier the decision is made and termination is done the better I think. Any longer and its just more time to fret and feel guilty, hormonal issues etc. If you're sure of the decision just do it asap, you'll feel much better and no point agonising for longer than necessary.
I agree with posieparker Getting rid of cells that can't feel anything, at a point where the solution is a pill rather than anything more...I would find it easier. Agree though that the decision of do I want the baby would still be the same.
Just don't know how far along I am as haven't had period in about 2 years due to [-pregnancy and breastfeeding. Presumably I would have to have a dating scan to check. I am guessing I conceived about 10/14 days ago as did a test about 4 days ago and a few days before that and both negative.
oh sorry......I'm fairly sure that's true but shouldn't have thrown something else in! If you already have a family why do you feel so strongly you couldn't cope with this one? Not judging just wondering your reasons
I just don't know LuluMaman and could agonise over it for weeks. Just don't know how to go about making a decision as I have so many different and conflicting emotions. I want the baby but just can't face the reality of having it, if you get me.
For me - may not feel pertinent to you - when struggling with this decision it really helped me to think which choice would be worse to regret? Personally I felt that I would rather live with the regret of a termination (it would be my pain to deal with myself) than to regret a child and the possible repercussions from that.
If you are sure about having a termination, it is definitely best to do it as early as possible. The longer the duration of the pregnancy, the more traumatic it will be physically, and probably emotionally too.
Poor you having to make this decision - whatever happens, I hope it all works out for you.
Thanks, will try to call tomorrow though not sure they will be able to help. HolyScrotum, I don't think I would ever regret having the child, it's just that I am effectively a single parent (married but relationship in meltdown and DH unable to help in any meaningful way due to work committments) and barely cope with one and just so worried that if I make a decision to keep the baby then the next 9 months will be horrendous as I will still doubt whether or not I made the right decision. When he/she is born, I would of course adore the child but just don't see how I could cope alone with two. I could if I absolutely had to but if there is way out, now, then I want to consider it. I know many people will not see this as a valid reason for an abortion; not even sure it is myself yet.
I appreciate your viewpoint but with all due respect you have no idea and this isn't, IMO, the thread for a general debate. I've mentioned my experience in relation to the OP. Not to have my choices critiqued.