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Vaginal cosmetis surgery. Worth it?? Im desperate

(34 Posts)
LopsidedLass Tue 14-Jul-09 21:55:38

Really im at my wits end.
My vulva is completely lopsided and right now im considering a loan that i cant even afford too get the surgery to fix it. My inner labia is really long und ugly and uncomfrtable. My outer labia is worse, one "lip" is fine and sits flush against me the other is a good 2 or so inches long. its not just ugly but uncomfortable and gets in the way blush Its always been like this but getting worse as im aging.
Has anyone had this surgery or know anyone who has? Or maybe have any other idea of how to sort this??

suwoo Tue 14-Jul-09 21:59:38

Surely if it is that disfigured and you are so traumatised about it, you could get the op on the NHS.

I have ishoos and in the right circumstances would have surgery, yes.

AitchTwoOh Tue 14-Jul-09 22:02:47

oh sweetheart, it sounds like it's really getting you down. can you speak to your GP about it, i'd have thought the NHS would help you, that's what it's there for.

and yes, i'm sure i've seen people posting to say they've had this surgery before, maybe you could search? there was a woman with two vaginas on a while back, so there's nothing new under the sun. smile

LopsidedLass Tue 14-Jul-09 22:06:57

fuck. im and idiot blush
Im too embaressed now but i'll read replies. thanks.

AitchTwoOh Tue 14-Jul-09 22:19:28

you really aren't an idiot, what makes you say that? it sounds uncomfortable, it's not a vanity thing (and even if it were, so what?) you should get it sorted by the NHS, that's what you pay your taxes for.

6inchnipples Tue 14-Jul-09 22:25:22

My cousin breast fed and then felt it had left her boobs saggy and less attractive than before. She got a boob job on the nhs. See your gp and tell him its affecting your mental health/emotional well being and you'd like to have it fixed.

If it upsets you and you want it fixed, go for it, its not stupid and i wouldn't be embarrassed, its not your fault its just a problem that needs fixed.

AitchTwoOh Tue 14-Jul-09 22:33:43

exactly. if your nose was taking a wander round your face you wouldn't hesitate. please don't be embarrassed.

BitOfFun Wed 15-Jul-09 12:55:42

Have you been watching lots of porn or something? Honestly, that can give you a very skewed idea of what's normal. I know an artist who has made casts of ordinary women's vulvas before- I'll try to find a link. I known mine doesn't feel the prettiest in the world- I mentioned to a gp that I wasn't sure how well a tear had healed, and he referred me to a gynae. I peeked at the gp's screen and he had written "unfortunate cosmetic result" blush, which made me cry when I got home! The lovely consultant I went to see told me it was absolutely fine and had healed really well, and she really put my mind at rest. And she must see a LOT of fanjos.

That said, you mention physical discomfort, and if this is a constant ongoing thing, then getting it seen to would be absolutely the right thing to ask for. I just think you should make sure that you're not over-thinking this because you've got unrealistic expectations of what it should look like iyswim.

BitOfFun Wed 15-Jul-09 13:10:00

Here is that artist's site I mentioned

RumourOfAHurricane Wed 15-Jul-09 16:15:12

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GrannyInAGimpsuit Wed 15-Jul-09 17:26:06

<< fans blushes of embarrassment with overlarge flaps >>

yes, come back! grin (BoF)

AitchTwoOh Wed 15-Jul-09 17:46:28

oh is that what happened? you forgot to change name on the healthy eating thread? smile

this stuff isn't embarrassing, lopsided. it's just life. please don't be ashamed.

bedjumper Wed 15-Jul-09 17:49:25

my sil had it done on nhs
she said (in politer way) that her flaps were too big and rubbed

AuntieMaggie Wed 15-Jul-09 17:51:52

yes i know someone that had this done.

think very carefully about it and speak to your gp about getting it on the nhs. if it were me I would have it done if it were causing discomfort but not just for cosmetic reasons.

AitchTwoOh Wed 15-Jul-09 18:44:40

but how can you define 'just' for cosmetic reasons, though? if it's having a detrimental effect on a person emotionally then that's not cosmetic.

bedjumper Wed 15-Jul-09 18:48:12

but honestly if you are having problems emotionally because your fanny isnt pretty enough then even if you get it 'fixed' you'll still have emotional problems, just focused elsewhere!
IF its causing discomfort then fair enough, but cosmetic reasons no, totally agree

RumourOfAHurricane Wed 15-Jul-09 19:04:15

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AitchTwoOh Wed 15-Jul-09 19:09:53

i've seen it on tv, actually, it's a super-simple op done under local. don't suffer any more if you don't have to.

BitOfFun Wed 15-Jul-09 19:13:58

Local? shock

AitchTwoOh Wed 15-Jul-09 19:14:58

yep. with scissors. it is a nothing op, as far as i saw. recovery a bit painful but the girl was very happy with it.

QOD Wed 15-Jul-09 19:15:32

oh my god...... I can't stop looking!

raindroprhyme Wed 15-Jul-09 21:08:30

i am thinking of getting my done once i have stopped having babies. similar prob to OP.
i have real issues wearing tight jeans and can no longer horse ride as rubbing is so bad.

It doesn't bother me so much looks wise DH as seen me in so many comprising positions i would be mad to worry about my lady bits being easy on the eye.

Physically tho it stops me doing stuff i enjoy. So i will be asking for it to be done on the NHS. from my reasearch it is a simple procedure, not horrificaly invasive.

so OP you are not alone.
good on you for bothering with healthy eating i have just eaten a pack of kit kats!!!

RumourOfAHurricane Wed 15-Jul-09 21:43:10

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MaggieBeBold Wed 15-Jul-09 21:45:24

I'm not even going to name-change! mine is wonky too! but I don't care. OK not my best feature thank god, but if my fanny were my best feature then I'd have problems.

OrmIrian Wed 15-Jul-09 21:54:03

IMO they all look weird. I dislike mine but I don't need to look at it and DH likes it. I wouldn't waste money on it personally (mine or the tax payer's)

However if it's uncomfortable or painful I don't see it as cosmetic really.

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