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My Dad died 12 days ago and now Mum's about to go into intensive care.

(57 Posts)
LilRedWG Wed 18-Feb-09 20:55:18

I don't know how much of it I can take. My lovely, lovely, Dad passed away on 6th February and we laid him to rest on Monday.

Now, my poor Mum, who is already in bad health, is very, very, poorly and they may admit her to Intensive Care tonight.

I just want my Mum to be well.

I've had enough.

raspberrytart Wed 18-Feb-09 20:58:05

You poor thing

I dont know what to say but I could'nt let this go unanswered

What seems to be the problem with your mum?

Have you got a friend or relly to talk to?

scrooged Wed 18-Feb-09 20:59:24

sad All I can do is send you the biggest hug I have ever given. We are never sent more then we can handle, even if we think we can't cope. Just know that there are people around you that can help you and support you and that you are not, nor ever will be, alone.

Take care pet, remember that you are not alone through this.

spicemonster Wed 18-Feb-09 20:59:36

Oh I am really sorry to hear that. Have you got anyone to give you a hug?

differentID Wed 18-Feb-09 21:01:07

Oh no LilRed. I don't know what to say!

Hulababy Wed 18-Feb-09 21:02:00

I am so sorry.

fryalot Wed 18-Feb-09 21:02:10

oh sweet darling lilred!

you know where I am. Feel free to email, fb or cat me.

Mummyfor3 Wed 18-Feb-09 21:02:23

I am so sorry for your loss, my condonlences.
Do you have anybody to support you and share the burden of worrying about your mother?
I hope you will get some good news about her very soon.

Lilyloo Wed 18-Feb-09 21:02:43

so sorry sad

feedthegoat Wed 18-Feb-09 21:04:24

So sorry you are going through all this. I really hope your mum is ok.

Woooozle100 Wed 18-Feb-09 21:06:32

sorry to read this. Sounds incredibly tough and no wonder you feel you've had enough. Wishing you all the best

CaptainKarvol Wed 18-Feb-09 21:09:21

I'm so sorry LilRed. I don't know what to say, it must be so hard for you. Wishing you lots of strength and support to get through such a horrible time.

bellavita Wed 18-Feb-09 21:10:01

Oh no sad, how truly awful for you. Sending you much love and strength xx

LilRedWG Wed 18-Feb-09 21:10:14

Thanks guys. DH is here and has arranged for MIL to have DD tomorrow.

Basically, Mum has been ill since having most of her small intestine removed at the end of August. She has had very bad odema, chronic diahrria (sp ), malnutrition and also has terrible arthritis. As a result she has been in hospital for the past month. She came home for the weekend and was a little forgetful, but we all put it down to stress/grief.

Today she became very vague/confused and they discovered that the oxygen they were giving her to help with a chest infection was actually making her worse. They have diagnosed Chronic obstructive pulmonary disease (COPD) with CO2 retention, which means that whilst her O2 levels are low any effort to use oxygen to raise them also raises her CO2 levels, causing confusion etc.

They've just put her back on the oxygen and will be checking her CO2 levels every hour - if she doesn't improve it'll be intensive care.

My Mum doesn't deserve this, especially not at the moment. She has handled her illness with such good humour and grace (especially considering she's been hospital/house bound for almost six months now).

It's crap, I hate it and I want to hide under my duvet.

OracleInaCoracle Wed 18-Feb-09 21:10:58

oh red, im so sorry. this is so shit. is there anything at all i can do?

Hassled Wed 18-Feb-09 21:13:41

I'm so sorry. Wish I knew what to say.

TotalChaos Wed 18-Feb-09 21:14:01

sorry you are going through such a hard time and your mum is so unwell. COPD is hard enough without the added complication of the CO2 problems. hope they sort out the CO2 problem soon.

Tillyscoutsmum Wed 18-Feb-09 21:15:13

red sad What an absolutely shitty time you're all having at the moment. I'll be thinking of you and hoping your mom gets better really soon.

MaureenMLove Wed 18-Feb-09 21:17:05

Aw lovely! sad I don't know what to say. Just know that we are thinking of you. xxx

giraffescantdancethetango Wed 18-Feb-09 21:19:09

Hope she gets better really soon. x

LilRedWG Wed 18-Feb-09 21:21:39

Thanks all. I'm off to bed in a few minutes. The hospital has my sister's numbers and she will keep me updated as and when.

mshadowsisfab Wed 18-Feb-09 21:24:59

LilRedWG so sorry to hear this, I do hope your mum is ok and send you love and prayers xx

LilRedWG Thu 19-Feb-09 19:44:53

Mum critical. Just home from hospital for shower and change of clothes - been there all day - and then back for the night. It doesn't look good. x

nowwearefour Thu 19-Feb-09 19:47:05

lots of thoughts and hugs sent your way from over here. how very horrible for you and your family to have to go through this at this time.

EffiePerine Thu 19-Feb-09 19:48:36

so sorry LilRed

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