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dh (again, sorry)

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misdee Wed 09-Mar-05 23:30:54

swollen ankles, and stomache. not good. both signs of heart failure. getting a feeling he'll be back in hospital in the next few days

Bonkerz Wed 09-Mar-05 23:31:33

sorry to hear that misdee. sending you hugs(())) Be strong.

Gwenick Wed 09-Mar-05 23:32:14

aww misdee - sorry to here that

[big hug] for you all




and If I here ONe more person say sorry today.......................

Bearess Wed 09-Mar-05 23:32:17

oh misdee we haven't talked about this before but I am sorry

lilsmum Wed 09-Mar-05 23:34:32

sorry to hear that, fingers crossed for you and him

misdee Wed 09-Mar-05 23:34:51

i dont want him to go back to hospital. i want him home with me and the kids. i also dont want to be dealing with this day to day. just wish i could leave all this behind, even for one day and have a normal day for once.

lilsmum Wed 09-Mar-05 23:35:21

is there nothing they can do to help him? xx

Bearess Wed 09-Mar-05 23:36:29

of course you do, misdee, it's so unfair

misdee Wed 09-Mar-05 23:36:36

pump him full of IV dirutics to get rid of the fluid (his weight has also increased by a stone and half in 2 weeks, which is another sign), then heart transplant. thats it.

Bearess Wed 09-Mar-05 23:37:37

How long has he been ill misdee?

lilsmum Wed 09-Mar-05 23:38:14

misdee Wed 09-Mar-05 23:38:37

3years in april. was doing well till about 6months ago, then went downhill rapidly.

Bearess Wed 09-Mar-05 23:40:26

Oh God, poor all of you. I would be in bits if it were my dh, do you get help from family etc?

misdee Wed 09-Mar-05 23:42:51

family have been great.

i am selfishly thinking/wishing for dh to go into hospital after i have learnt to drive. i have theory test next week, then am booking intensive course if i pass the theory. dh will be in Harefield hospital for the transplant, and i need to be driving by then. plus we have a holiday booked for may, and dont want to go on my own with the kids.

Bearess Wed 09-Mar-05 23:45:04

so (sorry, don't know how these things work) is he on a list for a transplant - and is he nearing the top?

lilsmum Wed 09-Mar-05 23:45:09

misdee, tell me to mind my own business if you like ... but what is actually wrong with his heart? i have read quite a few of your posts about it all and cant even imagine what you are all going through

misdee Wed 09-Mar-05 23:47:50

his heart is very enlarged, which was due to a flu virus. as the heart is a muscle, the enlargement has made the heart weak and 'floppy'. it isnt pumping properly. the heart rythym is also bad. as his heart isnt pumping properly he is at risk of blood clots as well. there has been detoration in the last six months (dont know how the mkeasure this), and he has now been assessed for transplant. he is on the list and on monday he will find out where he is prioty-wise.

lilsmum Wed 09-Mar-05 23:50:28

from flu? oh my god!! your poor dh and you, how awful xx

Gwenick Wed 09-Mar-05 23:50:40

misdee - I have to say I think you're handling it all incredibly well - if it had been me I'd have completely lost the plot by now, and the thought of having a baby as well would terrify me!

[another big hug]

misdee Wed 09-Mar-05 23:51:03

if u want to read about DCM then its all there.

misdee Wed 09-Mar-05 23:52:15

i think i may well lose it soon. have informed dh and my HV that when dh has had the transplant and is recovered, then i am booking myself a month of madness. if i lose it now, then the whole family will suffer.

Bearess Wed 09-Mar-05 23:52:45

how damn unlucky, hope that the news on Monday is good, fingers crossed here.

Gwenick Wed 09-Mar-05 23:55:10

just read it - sounds awful for you

Bearess Wed 09-Mar-05 23:55:14

you sound like you are coping fabulously well, you may just crumple when all the horrible stuff is over and dh has had his transplant - I think a month of madness is a wonderful idea!

lilsmum Wed 09-Mar-05 23:55:17

misdee, you must be a very strong person to deal with this as well as your dd's,much respect here, and good luck for monday, will be thinking of you xxx

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