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Oh f*ck I've had a lot of unprotected sex thinking I wanted to conceive but think I've changed my mind

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theautomatic · 21/09/2008 21:36

Title says it all really. Had horrendous birth with dd1 but somehow have convinced myself I#d like to be pregnant again. My dh is keen for me to get pregnant to which has got me carried away even more. I love my dd but not sure I can cope with another baby. Fnd it difficult combining work with motherhood and to ve completely frank dont think I'm a "natural" mother, have very little patience and have to work hard at enjoying time at home with dd. Worried I now maybe be pregnant after lots of unprotect sex around ovulation, to late to get the morning after pill and I'm I've already convinced myself I'm pregnant despite the odds being that I've probably not conceived. Now worrying myself to death about how I will cope with another baby, not just physically and emotionally but also financially. Infact I just dont think we could afford another baby. My dh will leave me if I have a termination so that is not an option. Oh god I dont know why I'm panicing so much about this when I'm probably not even pregnant?

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controlfreakinfreaky · 21/09/2008 21:38

don you think maybe it's like when you first decide to ttc.... (if that's what you did rather unplanned) in that if you waited until you were 100% ready you'd never do it? how old is dd?

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minorbird · 21/09/2008 21:41

Second thoughts are completely natural! Do not worry about tommorrow, let tommorrow worry about itself! What will be, will be and all that! Seriously, something in you wanted this to have unprotected sex 'lots', its not like, you did it once and changed your mind (as I keep doing!) so its more that you are now just getting cold feet! If I were you, I'd just relax and see what your period due date brings. There's nothing else you can do, except worry and that won't help.

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fishie · 21/09/2008 21:42

when is your period due? i usually get v anxious in week before it begins, so this possible pg may only be the thing you are fretting about, rather than a terrible problem. i find exercise helps a lot with the jitters.

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BreevandercampLGJ · 21/09/2008 21:43

I would give my right arm to be in your position, if you do not conceive this month, please seriously review your mindset.

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theautomatic · 21/09/2008 21:48

Thanks everyone. I think you've hit it on the head minorbird something in me did want to get pregnant when I was suggesting lots of sex with my dh! I deliberately stopped taking the pill last month and have been extra horny since (hormones?) I feel like my body is desperate for me to get pregnant while my brain has now kicked in with thoughts about how we'll cope financially. In some ways I was hoping a better birth with baby number 2 would help heal me emotionally after my first birth experience (DD is 3). Must try to calm down. Though already am worrying about whether to go back on the pill again. I never seem to do anything but worry and its so bloody exhausting.

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minorbird · 21/09/2008 21:53

Yes automatic and I bet when waiting for due period, you will then be feeling the opposite and hoping! We are strange creatures arent we! I've just posted on a similar thread about 'when the right time is' and I really don't think there is one! I think when you feel that you want it, you must bite the bullet and do it. Because you will always worry and doubt no matter what! Do keep us informed wontcha! x

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lou031205 · 21/09/2008 21:54

Totally normal I am pregnant with DC3, and will have 3 under 3½. The baby is very much wanted, and definitely planned, but every so often I have a - WHAT HAVE I DONE? moment. Just go with it.

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theautomatic · 21/09/2008 22:00

Bree- are you trying to conceive? I deliberately didnt post on the pregnancy/conception boards so as not to offend anyone.

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BreevandercampLGJ · 21/09/2008 22:28

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No, I am not.

I have one DS, he took an age to catch. I had him on a Saturday my heart failed on the Tuesday. I was told DS would be first and last.

I wanted four children, I would have settled for two.

So if you are in a position to have children, think long and hard about it.

I am so

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controlfreakinfreaky · 21/09/2008 22:40

don't know you situation at all lgj but would you think of adopting?

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Leoness · 21/09/2008 22:45

Que sera sera

What will be will be

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BreevandercampLGJ · 21/09/2008 22:46

CF

Whilst I was dealing with the hand life had dealt me, I missed the cut off date in my area, and ...............

If I am honest.....

I really like my life now, but it took a long time to get to this point, and if someone is blessed with the ability to have another gift from God they should either say, yay or nay but stop bleating about it.

Sorry to sound so harsh.