ask. seriously. my bf is coeliac and has to do this all the time. and it is far easier on the waiting staff if you ring beforehand rather than go through the whole menu when you order! they really wont mind. and if they do then they are very rude.
Indian food is normally one of the easiest to accommodate for wheat-freers, to be honest. Even the stuff in the supermarket tends not to have any wheat in. My dh would normally have a biriani or a jalfrezi - no probs.
But phone ahead, trust me you won't be the first one. Heck, I'll phone for you if you like, I do it all the time!
Poppadoms generally okay actually as based on (forgotten name but like chickpea flour).
You want to try ordering wheat-free in a bistro in Paris, thank god I had French friends with me to launch into an elaborate explanation of what had wheat in. I reckon the chef still just went "bof, this crazy rosbif with his wheat - he will have what I cook and he will like it".
Better to phone and find out the dishes you can have and really enjoy the night than worry and potentially make yourself ill. You're not being picky, it's not a fad, it's an illness. Ring them and I'm sure they will be more than happy to help you.
You can do it - and then look smug when dh says "here we go, she'll be asking a million questions before she orders" and you sweetly say "I shall have the [whatever you like] thank you very much".
Btw, a few other eating out tips: - you now like baked potatoes, even if you didn't before (watch out for the tomato sauce in baked beans though) - Pizza Express will cook a pizza on a base you bring to them - Bella Italia have a fab book that lists every ingredient in every menu and will switch and swap to make the meal wheat-free - La Tasca list what is g-f on their menu so no need to ask any questions
Also just found this whilst googling for the name of La Tasca!
If you have had a positive blood test for coeliac disease then really, as a fellow sufferer then phone ahead!!
Have you been on a wheat/gluten free diet long? Have you been "good" or "sloppy"?
I ask because if you have been careful and been strictly gluten free for a while and you chance it and eat at the indian without phoning/asking and eat something that has got gluten/wheat in it you will be ILL. It takes me 7-10 days to recover fully from a coeliac episode, I have stomach cramps and the runs for about 48-72 hours, followed by several days of feeling generally sore and tired and utterly shite, before my stomach lining repairs it's self and I begin to feel human again.
If your Dr has told you to go wheat/gluten free because of a blood test then take it seriously and clip your DH around the ear and make him take it seriously too.