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stage 3 breast cancer

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lou33 Sat 22-Jan-05 16:58:08

can anyone help explain what this means realistically in terms of survival rates? Dh has just found out his mum has stage 3 breast cancer. She has had a radical mastectomy and her lymph nodes (?) removed. She has had chemo and is halfway through radiotherapy, having 25 sessions of it, then being put on a new drug, beginning with A, sorry i can't remember whatit's called. She has had this since feb last year but he has only just found out, and is v upset, noone bothered to let him know.

Tia

cupcakes Sat 22-Jan-05 17:04:39

Sorry I can't give you any advice. My mum has had breast cancer but only needed radiotherapy and didn't need a mastectomy. If she's had this since Feb (was that her first surgery?) she must be quite strong to still be getting through the treatment 10 months on.
Funny noone thought to tell your dh - do they have a good relationship?

lou33 Sat 22-Jan-05 17:15:57

thanks, no they dont, but i would have thought these things were bigger than fallings out iyswim

cupcakes Sat 22-Jan-05 17:17:10

Yes, you would have done. It is things like this which should encourage people to start communicating again.

lou33 Sat 22-Jan-05 17:26:53

yes i would have thought one of his brothers or sisters would ahve called

cupcakes Sat 22-Jan-05 17:29:41

especially over Christmas

amynnixmum Sat 22-Jan-05 17:41:48

Had a look for you.
this

amynnixmum Sat 22-Jan-05 17:46:58

And this
HTH. My mum is at stage 2 and is starting her chemo next friday. Hugs for you and Dp{{{}}}

lou33 Sat 22-Jan-05 17:49:21

Thaks amy, and to you too

tamum Sat 22-Jan-05 18:01:38

lou, it basically means she has about a 50% chance of surviving 5 years after diagnosis. I know this sounds very cold, but it sounds as though your dh really wants the information. Stage 3 is nowhere near as bad as stage 4, when the cancer is known to have spread to distant sites. It does sound as though she is having just the right treatment. Hugs to you both.

lou33 Sat 22-Jan-05 18:08:40

no it doesnt sound cold tamum, you are just giving me the info i have asked for. Thank you

tamum Sat 22-Jan-05 18:11:12

You're more than welcome, I just wish it was a bit better news. xxx

happymerryberries Sat 22-Jan-05 18:19:04

I agree with what tamum has said but can I sugest you read this

http://www.cancerguide.org/mediannotmsg.html

This was written by a wonederful scientist Stephen Jay Gould who was given awful survival odds. He explains what the 'median survival' realy means for patients. It isn't 'pllyanna' stuff but and honest guide that shos that for many people the news is better than they think when they read the stats. His disease has an avarage survival rate of months and he lived for another 20 years. He did die of cancer, but not the one from the original diagnosis.

I know that it helped me when I got dh's diagnosis. Hugs to you

happymerryberries Sat 22-Jan-05 18:21:39

sorry try \link{http://www.cancerguide.org/mediannotmsg.html\median survival

JanH Sat 22-Jan-05 18:23:01

here, hmb!

those sodding underlines!

happymerryberries Sat 22-Jan-05 18:23:10

Try again median survival

happymerryberries Sat 22-Jan-05 18:23:53

Yes, drat them! I can search the internet with the best of them but I am a techno numpty when it comes to posting links!

lou33 Sat 22-Jan-05 19:09:05

thank you

marthamoo Sat 22-Jan-05 19:26:38

Sorry to hear that lou You are not having a good year so far are you? (((HUGS)))

lou33 Sat 22-Jan-05 19:42:36

No it's been a massive pile of shit since november actually. But thanks

irishbird Sun 23-Jan-05 18:16:16

Message withdrawn at poster's request.

lou33 Sun 23-Jan-05 20:28:07

Thank you for posting irishbird

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