Hi folks, so sorry about long absense! (well it FEELS long)... well done all on not cracking, and mammya, pls don't give yourself a big hard time over your tiddly little joints...
still on the wagon fag wise, 971 not smoked - have found it v v hard tho with dh puffing away in kitchen in front of me. Read yr posts about housework and dh's not helping and god could I identify! Things HAVE got better this last year or so - but before that I was buckling under the strain of it and was a fizzing ball of resentment and anger.
These days I ask him to do stuff, and refuse to pick up his dirty clothes etc or wash them if they're not in linen basket... he used to come home from work and sit on sofa, gently dozing, while I picked up about 50 toys, cooked, washed up... I used to think he was conducting a secret experiement to see how far he could push me before I exploded. I used to be clearing up in tears. Things are better now thank f*.
Am really overloaded with work so feel a bit stressed, really needing xmas break.
yeah you're right fp - best to ignore tantrums. dd had them bad, but they've subsided now - I used to just step over her writhing body. Boys have been bl**dy hard work today - took them to a fair in edinburgh (dh out xmas shopping), and as soon as we got home it was fight fight fight and dd in tears. Playstation ban till friday. Ungrateful wee tykes!!
gonna have big glass of wine & attempt to switch work head on.... oh yeah jenni, poor you, you sound so overloaded... gonna check out your thread, take it easy xxxxx ps had the off cig (maybe 1 a day) when pg with dd, mostly stopped with boys - wouldn't have dared do it in public.