Dental anxiety; choosing a new dentist?

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KatyMac Fri 04-Dec-20 10:14:16

My existing dentist retired,it took from about 2002 to 2008 to stop needing valium to attend for having work done

They just transferred me to his replacement and after 2 appts I haven't really gelled with him plus I moved and it's now 2 hours away so really I should change practise

How on earth do I choose? Ideally Id like somewhere they do sedation on site as I have some fairly major stuff coming up

The CQC reports look much of a muchness as I don't 'read' them (the same way I can 'read' a nursery report for example)

And of course covid means I can't pop in and chat to get a feel for the place like I normally would

I have been recommended a large chain, a small chain, a practise and an independent and I am so anxious you wouldn't believe! (wanna take Valium just to ring up - but I won't)

Looking in or around Ipswich

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Orangeblossom77777 Fri 04-Dec-20 11:02:36

I got a relative nearby to recommend one. It is private but does not overcharge and under 16s are free/NHS

I also got health insurance, it is cheap around ten pounds a month. It has been really worth it as I hate the dentists too.

there is a local site Next-door where people recommend stuff might be useful as well. good luck.

Orangeblossom77777 Fri 04-Dec-20 11:03:21

On the website they sometimes say about anxious patients, could be worth looking there too

KatyMac Fri 04-Dec-20 11:21:37

Yes they mention anxious patients (all of them)

I am such a wuss

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Twinkie01 Fri 04-Dec-20 11:31:01

We go to one at Stanway, just south of Colchester, I know it's a bit of a hike for you and it's private (not sure if that's what you're after) but he's amazing. I went from having white knuckles and shakes to actually enjoying going to the dentist if there is such a thing.

I swear he has magic hands and does this weird little flicking thing on the outside of your cheek whilst injecting the lidocaine so you've no idea he's actually doing anything. Everyone there is just so nice and kind and understanding, making you feel comfortable and relaxed from the minute you walk through the door.

Orangeblossom77777 Fri 04-Dec-20 11:45:51

It has made a difference to me too, I have anxiety from medical stuff in the past and used to dread the dentists. Now it is like going to a spa! they are like 'here is the garden room' and the radio and view makes a difference. It is well worth the insurance, which has been so helpful over lockdown too. I recommend it.

KatyMac Fri 04-Dec-20 13:26:07

OK I have my phone ready to ring up and I am having a bit of a moment

I may have to build up to do it on Monday!

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Orangeblossom77777 Fri 04-Dec-20 13:56:30

Good luck, it might really help you. In case it helps any this is the insurance I use

KatyMac Fri 04-Dec-20 19:23:57

Thanks something has gone horribly wrong and I now need a root canal, a deep filling and the root of a crowned tooth out so I can have a bridge

That is going to cost a pretty ebay and I dont reckon I'll be able to persuade anyone to do it all under sedation sadly

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Sensitivenamechange77777 Fri 04-Dec-20 20:37:39

Maybe you could get some of that done on the NHS and start afresh with a private dentist with insurance, as you say it will cost a lot. Kind thoughts.

KatyMac Fri 04-Dec-20 22:14:19


I think i am better being honest paying for the lot under as few sedation as they will do

The temptation to just knock me out and get it done is really high

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Orangeblossom77777 Sun 06-Dec-20 09:06:30

Ok well after that I really recommend getting insurance, it just paid out for me the full cost for emergency treatment and saved hundreds of pounds. Thing is it doesn't cover pre-existing problems so need to get in advance iyswim. It has made such a difference seeing a good dentists and using it so don;t have to worry about high costs. Kind thoughts.

KatyMac Sun 06-Dec-20 18:29:53

I think you are right

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Orangeblossom77777 Mon 07-Dec-20 09:56:03

Yes it does help, it makes such a difference having a good dentist and feeling secure. Good luck and well done facing it all.

Sitdowncupoftea Mon 07-Dec-20 14:59:26

Personally I would google and read reviews. I recently changed my dentist as the NHS one i was under said he could not extract a tooth. Personally I think it was an excuse. I went private. I was told sedation waiting list was 9 month. I have anxiety due to a case of bad dentistry in the past that left me only able to eat liquids for two month and serious infection which I needed hospitaltreatment for. To cut a long story short I had wisdom teeth removed along with another tooth with an injection only. You may have a problem even if your private getting a sedation. However change your dentist not all are bad. Private dentists don't cost much more but there is by far a better level of care.

KatyMac Mon 07-Dec-20 16:36:21

I have made an appointment - I cried and then had an anxiety attack with palpitations and a cold sweat!

I need to get a grip

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Orangeblossom77777 Mon 07-Dec-20 16:39:34

It will be OK flowers

SlightDelay Mon 07-Dec-20 16:40:35

Private practice with great reviews.

boredinthouse Mon 07-Dec-20 16:47:38

OP you have my sympathy. I have a terrible dental phobia. I was with my childhood dentist until he retired and then I just went with whoever was local to where I lived. It was awful and I dreaded (and cancelled) each appointment. I've finally been able to afford a private dentist and honestly it's made so much difference. I have the same dentist abs hygienist each time and I've had a good chat with both about what I am scared of and how I can manage. I've got some work coming up and they're going to split it into two or maybe four appointments so that I'll cope better. It makes all the difference. I'm still scared, it hasn't gone away, I shake so much that I can't sometimes put my card in the card reader 😳 but I can now actually go abs get the work done. I hope that you find a dentist that you can work on your anxiety with together.

Sitdowncupoftea Mon 07-Dec-20 17:14:44


I have made an appointment - I cried and then had an anxiety attack with palpitations and a cold sweat!

I need to get a grip

It will be OK discuss your issues with the dentist. I downloaded a playsuit and took headphones in when I had two teeth removed. I was barely on the third song and they were removed. I never felt a thing. Normally I'm sedated. I was just injected this time. Dentists are prepared for anxious patients. Go private is my advice. Its the first time I've had teeth removed without sedation and the first time I've never had an infection either.

Sitdowncupoftea Mon 07-Dec-20 17:15:25

*playlist not playsuit lol.

KatyMac Tue 08-Dec-20 12:18:39

In an interesting development the dentist who replaced my retired dentist has 'left the practice' for personal reasons and won't be back.....

So maybe it wasn't me?

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KatyMac Tue 15-Dec-20 15:59:52

On my way to the new dentist now <gulp>

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Lalalatte Tue 15-Dec-20 19:29:26

Not sure they are allowed to do sedation anymore.

KatyMac Wed 16-Dec-20 00:46:45

Yep booked in for sedation for a huge filling, possible 1-3 implants and we will see after that

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