I am blushing as I write this. Ever since I was 16, I have had an issue with leaking urine (not usually huge amounts but enough to make the crotch of my underwear very damp and smelly). I did not feel confident going to a doctor and kept telling myself it would go away. I do remember having a lot of urinary infections in my late teens and sometimes would wake up in a wet bed which I made sure to hide (didn't want to get into trouble- home life was difficult).
Well in my late 20s things started to get worse. on and off bedwetting and waking up several times at night to go to the loo (I was on a lot of antipsychotic and mood stabilising medication for MH issues and still am on some) and sometimes wetting the bed but not nightly. Just often. I ruined several mattresses before I admitted to myself I needed to buy a mattress cover and bought those tena pants for night time, and pads during day.
I find that if I don't go immediately when I feel the urge that I just don't make it in time. This happens day or night and I find myself having accidents during the day.
3 years ago went to GP who gave me a questionnaire asking me to keep a diary of accidents and also how many times I needed the loo, how much I was voiding. then she sent me to have a scan. I had the ultrasound- was told there wasn't much wrong- I was retaining some wee, not emptying properly, but not enough to cause infections so not to worry and that maybe the nerves opening and closing the bladder were not affective. They didn't give me a definite diagnosis. They told me to try kegels but i find they make the muscles down there so tense it is painful and makes emptying myself worse. (I do have some issues with muscular rigidity and spasms (had this since I took a certain antipsychotic drug about 18 years ago- hasn't gone) and am seeing a neurologist and looking into possible movemnet disorder issues so that might be why I struggle, but I just wonder if there are any alternatives to kegels out there?
I have been struggling a lot with trauma issues (am seeing someone for complex trauma issues and have diagnoses of personality disorder, anxiety, OCD etc) and have noticed am hyperaware of my body at th emoment and thi sincreases my worry am going to lose control of my bladder. I have gone back to wearing plastic sheet on my bed at night (otherwise I worry and can't relax) but now found am having really crazy obsessive thoughts and need to pee all the time, and am leaking an awful lot, day and night.
Sorry this is long. I am not sure what is wrong with maybe. I feel very ashamed that am going through this. I feel a fialure fo rnot being successful at kegels
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not pee troll I promise...wetting pants and bed at 38?
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imstillbreathingbarely · 08/06/2020 20:59
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