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I am ill- ill enough that I can't lift my baby who has croup and is on steroids. DH has to go to work. What can I do?
Title says it all. My parents are in Greece, ILs are on a narrow boat somewhere. I can hardly breathe and certainly can't lift 19lb dd who is pretty bad with croup. No friends nearby who aren't working. Is there anything I can do? DD needs regular trips to the bathroom for steam which is making me faint.
There is no chance of dh's employers agreeing to time off.
I hate to be the one to say it, but you are not allowed to be ill and you just have to manage We lived 400 miles away from any support, in the end DH stayed home and got a warning, then changed jobs. You are superwoman and you will manage - I believe that positive thinking can help
and also, that is bad that your DHs org. wont allow him time off. I guess diff companys have diff. policies. But Ive been so bad before now, and DH has had to take the day off. It doesnt come off his hols allowance, Carers dependence leave. Most companies (I think) allocate 5 days per year. Not a lot of people know this, so have him check it out AFKAS
Phoned and left a message with hv who is about 7 miles away so I can't drop into the clinic and ask for help. DH is refusing to call in sick. He's not heartless. The business would stop if he didn't go in. Frankly, I care not but he incapable of lying to them.
I think that your dh has to explain to his employers that you are very ill, your dd is ill and has actually stopped breathing on one occasion, and that he needs time off to look after you both. His employers would have to be monsters not to agree. What a horrible situation for you.
NO MadhHouse, thats not helpful. sometimes you just cant manage. she needs help. (I agree that if there is no help at all, then yes she will manage, but it puts her and her baby at risk if she is weak and can barely stand...etc)
maybe we should start a thread for some Mumsnetters who might live nearby to go and help, and keep it bumped.
If the situation was that bad, I would never have allowed dh to go to work. You faint when you have to take dd into the steamy bathroom? In fact, I don't think even my dh would have gone to work. He should have rung up and pulled a sickie.
I feel for you, but hopefully you will feel better later in the day. I usually find the morning and evening are the times I feel worst if I am ill.