I have a godmother age 61. She is a bit of a loner and lived abroad for a long while until she came back after her long term partner has died. Myself, DH and the dc have sort of taken her under our wing as she would otherwise be very lonely.
I've been helping her since 2014 and she has quite a few health issues - including epilepsy which seemed until recently to be very under control.
We talk every day and she comes for an evening visit every few days or so. The past two visits she had what I would call a funny turn - she mumbles something about going to sleep, gets tearful and closes her eyes for about a minute but will be talking normally the whole time.
The first time she did it she spoke to her doctor and then told me it was a folic acid problem and the doctor thinks she's exhausted and is comfortable to do whatever it was in my home as she knows she is safe.
The second time we had literally just finished speaking about it and she had a funny turn.
Now this is where I sound a bit confused and awful but I'm not I'm seriously worried for her mental health - I'm concerned she's doing it out of loneliness/boredom. She has a long history of faking episodes of illness when she is particularly stressed or lonely.
She is also showing other concerning symptoms such as she will tell me something she wants to happen and the next time I see her will have forgotten she told me but tell me the same story but as though it actually happened not just something she had thought about.
She will also say something very rudely or aggressively then a minute later say sorry I didn't mean to say that. She is especially snappy with my two dc when she used to be lovely with them.
Yesterday she said "I'm so knackered this is why I'm on the verge of giving up" then corrected herself saying she didn't mean anything by it.
She is also very manic and loud if we go out and will either be overly friendly to people (waiters, shop assistants) or make rude comments at the top of her voice about people. Her doctors do know about this and don't think it's normal and she is seeing someone about her mood and random aggression.
My concerns are she's either got some kind of dementia or her epilepsy has altered her mood (don't know if that can ) or she's having a breakdown.
She has a brother who she talks to but he is at the other end of the country and would make all the right noises but not do anything practical.
I could ring her brother but that might really piss her off
I could ask her to let me come to the doctors with her but again she might be annoyed.
I'm finding it very difficult to work out what to do for the best. I'm not an actual blood relative - she was my uncles wife but I've grown up with her in my life and she did a lot for me when I was growing up and now I'm all she really has and I want to do the right thing.
I don't know if it matters but i do have POA and it's more do to with making decisions if she becomes too ill to do that herself.
Sorry it was so long.
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Seizures or something else (long sorry)
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beetleaugust · 20/08/2019 22:16
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