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unicorn888 Tue 28-May-19 09:04:45

My heart is broke even before I take my ds to get his injections! Is it bad for me to get someone else to bring him?? I haven't stopped crying this past couple of days. Maybe I'm overreacting but it's going to hurt me seeing my baby being hurt. Did u cry at your baby's shots?

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KnittingForMittens Fri 14-Jun-19 09:06:17

Not at all. I never take my DS for his vaccines. I kept putting it off because I couldn't find anybody else to take him. Eventually my husband booked it off as holiday so he was able to take him for his jabs because I can't watch him go through it. When I saw him the first time I couldn't do it again. It traumatised me for ages.

popcorndiva Fri 14-Jun-19 09:13:20

They only cry for ten seconds then it's over. You know that and you know it is for their own benefit to have the jabs. If you are bf then that helps straight after.

KatnissMellark Fri 14-Jun-19 09:15:57

It is difficult, at 8 weeks and still full of hormones it did bring tears to my eyes. You're the adult here and the parent though and part of that is putting them first, a short period of being upset is far better than horrible dangerous diseases. If you can't get someone else to take them, do, but if not, suck it up and do it yourself, that's what parents do.

NightScented Fri 14-Jun-19 09:22:21

Get a grip, in the nicest possible way. Most babies don't turn a hair as the pain is momentary and very minor. You owe it to your baby to calm down and be there to make sure it's as easy as possible. It's not about you.

chuttypicks Fri 14-Jun-19 11:07:36

YABU. Massive overreaction on your part. Did I enjoy watching my DS have his vaccinations and cry? NO! Did I take him anyway because I'm the adult and I know that sometimes you have to be cruel to be kind? YES OF COURSE I DID!! And unless the baby's father could take him instead of you, then you really shouldn't have anyone else to take him. If he's in pain or upset, don't you want him to have the comfort that his Mummy is there to look after him?

Phillipa12 Fri 14-Jun-19 11:11:11

Nope, not with any of my 4dc. I did however feel sorry for dc4 when he said to the nurse at his preschool boosters "why would you spikey me, i is just a little boy"!

flamed12 Fri 14-Jun-19 11:13:21

Yes every time I cried. I hate them but know they need to be done.

BendingSpoons Fri 14-Jun-19 11:20:36

No, it's only brief. I wanted to be there as I am DCs biggest comfort. I could cuddle/breastfeed straight after.

CharminglyGawky Fri 14-Jun-19 15:19:15

No, it's not pleasant but it's to keep them safe so easy to rationalise.

I did feel awful after one of the early lots when he just wouldn't calm down... turned out he had forgotten about the needles but was very upset that he couldn't look around the interesting room because I was snuggling him against me to calm him. As soon as I turned him slightly he was as happy as Larry!

Expressedways Fri 14-Jun-19 15:26:16

I think in your circumstances getting someone else to take the baby for their shots is a good idea. You should also make an appointment to see your doctor and talk to your health visitor (if in the UK) about your anxiety as it’s really not normal to be crying nonstop for days over doubting immunisations.

Expressedways Fri 14-Jun-19 15:27:10

Sorry I meant routine immunisations not doubting immunisations!!

CottonSock Fri 14-Jun-19 15:28:19

I did for a second, but not for days.

Ragwort Fri 14-Jun-19 15:31:39

No I didn’t cry, you need to toughen up, I’d be crying a lot more if my DC became seriously ill or died because I hadn’t had him vaccinated.

ladymalfoy Fri 14-Jun-19 15:39:16

Jessica? Is that you?

SemperIdem Fri 14-Jun-19 15:42:50

Um, no I didn’t cry. I’m a hard cow though. I know lots of women do cry.

I think crying for days suggests there might be something else going though, are you generally ok moodwise?

SoyDora Fri 14-Jun-19 15:45:01

No I didn’t cry and if I’m honest I have no idea why people do!
Of course I didn’t enjoy it, but it’s a brief moment of pain for a lifetime of protection.

lookingatthings Fri 14-Jun-19 15:46:24

I cried for his 8 week ones: he cried and was a little poorly afterwards, but we spent the rest of day cuddling and nursing, and the very next day he was back to his usual happy self.

His 12w one's were today and he cried for literally a minute, then grinned and has been happy as Larry all day. I was anticipating being upset by it but in all honesty it was over before I even knew it.

MindyStClaire Fri 14-Jun-19 15:47:23

No. Honestly - I usually hate when people say this, but - so many parents will witness their kids being properly sick. A few shots is nothing. It's not fun, but it lasts five minutes and then it's over except for the after effects which were much worse IME . You cuddle your baby and support them through it. You can do this!

legalseagull Fri 14-Jun-19 15:48:06

Your reaction isn't normal and I wonder if it's covering for anxiety elsewhere? Everyone hates seeing their baby upset, but it's literally a few seconds. It's your job to be strong for them and to protect their health.

Reallybadidea Fri 14-Jun-19 15:50:54

Behaving like that makes it worse for your baby. They look to you for reassurance and if you're acting like they're about to get eaten by a tiger, they will be even more frightened. You need to try and get a grip to be brutally honest.

Pipandmum Fri 14-Jun-19 15:53:54

Cry? My kids didn’t ever cry either. In fact my son enjoyed it so much he kept asking every week if he needed another shot! The nurse gave him a small sweet, told him to not bite it till she said so. He was so much concentrating on not biting the sweet he barely noticed the injection.
As babies my children were fine too. Because I was fine. I do not see what the fuss is ( I also have type 1 diabetes and inject myself several times a day, albeit with small needles, and it drives me nuts when people say ‘ooo I couldn’t do that I hate needles’. Not if the alternative is dying).

BakewellGin1 Fri 14-Jun-19 15:58:27

Nobody enjoys taking their babies for injections Im sure but it is for their long term benefit and you are the parent, there to reassure them and make them feel safe.

If you are this worried and anxious it might help you to speak to your GP or Health Visitor for support x

prettyLittlefool Fri 14-Jun-19 16:12:26

Oh man up!!!

Celebelly Fri 14-Jun-19 16:22:52

No. And DD only screamed for a minute or two and then all was forgotten. I mean this kindly, but this is the first of many difficult situations you will need to be in with your child. They need you to be the parent and comfort them, not for you to be in need of comforting yourself.

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