When dh's cancer first came back a few years ago (it had never occured to us it wasn't a one off blip sort of thing) we re-examined our lives, and changed to ensure we did things today and not put off until tomorrow. We moved house to raise our kids by the sea in a lovely house in a lovely place. I gave up being a working mum in the city (and the salary that came with it) to focus on raising our 3 kids (much to my dh's complete delight). Life is currently wonderful. But dh's cancer is not predictable, he could live to be 100, equally it could go pear shaped and he could be gone from our lives by the end of this year (although this is not a strong possibility). We have a large mortgage and of course no life insurance as they wont touch dh with a barge poll. Neither of us want to leave our wonderful house (dh adamently doesn't want to) but I'm scared. To loose my dh, the kids their father and our home all in one go is seriously worrying me. A friend's father had the same cancer and it went pear shaped and he died within 3 weeks of discovering that it had gone wrong. One solution is that we sell up and downgrade, but why if he were to live for another 40 years? Another solution is that I work again. This is the bit I'm unsure of. To earn serious money I'd have to return to the city which is 2 hours commute away. I wouldn't see the kids, and they wouldn't see me. I've been seriously looking around for a job to fit around my kids but given that my ds is only just 1 years old there's nothing around that would pay enough to cover childcare and to make a reasonably dent in the mortgage so there seems no point. I've been considering starting up my own business running a cafe at a dance school but the hours would be 4 to 9 every weekday evening just as my kids once again need me. I could hire a nursery assistant to watch over them at the cafe and I could build an area to make their own but whilst I would oversee them they wouldn't have instant access to me. So do I give up enjoying watching my kids grow up for the sake of financial security or do I say sod it we'll deal with what happens when it happens.
WHAT WOULD YOU DO?
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So if your partner was diagnosed with cancer etc that meant an unclear future would you concentrate on enjoying everyday whilst you can or would you work your butt off to ensure financial security for your kids?
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Wills · 22/06/2007 11:11
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Pamina ·
22/06/2007 11:42
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