Thanks guys. The thing that felt the scariest is calling myself an alcoholic. I have always described myself as a heavy drinker but knew deep down that I cannot control the 'demon drink' ~ I haven't been able to successfully cut down (except when pg, but even then had 2 glasses of wine every night during final 20 weeks!!!! - ds bustingly healthy and very bright thank God!!!) It's only following Brassic's story really that I have come to realise that 'it's time'. My ds is only 20 months, and too young yet to have been embarrassed by my drunken behaviour (only ever after his bedtime) but not too young to have potentially been affected - I've often wondered what would have happened if he became suddenly and seriously ill whilst I was drunk as my husband is disabled and can't drive - it doesn't bear thinking about. But i have reflected long and hard that I don't want him to become embarrassed by me, or that I can't take him places in the evening, coz I want a drink more. And of course, more than anything, at 35 when I had him, I don't want to be a raddled old drunk when he's a teenager - I want to be healthy and full of energy and able to keep up with him (or cope with his miserable teenage tantrums!!!).
Talking to my dh a few days ago, I also feel that tackling my drinking once and for all would be the last step in 'growing up'. I've successfully dealt with major food issues following an eating disorder in my teens and early twenties, to the point where I can say that I have one of the healthiest relationships with food and my body image of most of my friends, all of whom are slimmer than me yet constantly dieting and moaning about their vast thighs or huge stomachs! I have exercised 3-5 times a week consistently for the last 5 years, and feel 'grown up' in all the other areas of my life - except the booze. So, I finally want to admit the horrible 'a' word about myself (my name's Cubby and I'm an alcoholic) and tackle the problem head on for a change instead of dodging the issue with 'i'll swap to wine, or I'll only drink on days with a 'y' in them' kind of lies to myself.
Brassic, apologies for asking for your help, because on reflection I realise that you have more than enough on your plate with your own recovery - hope that is going well. Thank you for your honesty, as it has helped my over the final hurdle of being honest with myself. I will keep posting, as I know it will help to keep me on the right path.
Thanks again, guys. Sorry for the long, meandering ramble - not due to drink for once!