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How do I cope with this?? Please give me some hope..

(13 Posts)
Pinklady1982 Tue 12-Jun-18 21:10:53

Just found out my dad has liver cancer, and sounds like it is quite advanced. Does anybody know anyone who has been through this? Any positive recovery stories would be great?

AsAProfessionalFekko Tue 12-Jun-18 21:12:13

What treatment have they suggested? How old is he?

Pinklady1982 Tue 12-Jun-18 21:25:59

He is 63 this year. They are still doing some tests, but said today it has spread, so cannot remove.

FuckingHateRain Tue 12-Jun-18 21:29:50

Sorry to hear this OP. Liver is tricky, a close relative had kidney cancer few months ago but removing it at the right time saved her, it was simple as we have two of them
Liver is trickier . What stage is it? Where did it spread to? Spreading doesn't mean they can't remove.. have they given him a particular diet?

Oly5 Tue 12-Jun-18 21:35:51

Ah I’m so sorry you’re going through this. Learning a parent has advanced cancer is a huge shock.
I had this with my mum and it was one of the worst days of my life.
Advanced liver cancer is difficult to treat.. you can find out more on the Cancer Research UK website.
Macmillan are very good and helpful in telling you what to expect

AsAProfessionalFekko Tue 12-Jun-18 21:39:12

Kidneys are 'easier' as they are tough buggers and tumous tend to stay put.

The liver is an amazing organ though - one donor liver can go onto 2 people (I'm sure a friend who works in that filled said 4 of they are children /babies).

AsAProfessionalFekko Tue 12-Jun-18 21:40:00

63 is young these days, it really is.

Pinklady1982 Wed 13-Jun-18 07:40:36

Thanks all. I have been reading up about it but it just upsets me even more. They seem to put it into 4 groups, a,b,c & d. The first 3 he has a chance, d, it’s juat a case of chemo to try to prolong his life. The docs are all havin a meeting tomorrow after some more tests today to make a decision, but was told yesterday he has what is like white spots all over his liver. I’m everybody’s point of contact as well so my phone doesn’t stop and I have to keep trying to explain it over and over again, it’s draining. Also got a little 5 year old who misses her grandad and wants to know when he will be home. How the hell do you explain what’s happening!? Sorry I know nobody has all the answers, I just need to get all this out.

AsAProfessionalFekko Wed 13-Jun-18 08:02:29

Good luck for today. Write down questions before and take notes.

MissCherryCakeyBun Wed 13-Jun-18 08:28:38

Sending you hugs, similar issue with my dad a while ago I got my niece a couple of children's books from amazon about going to the hospital and about nurses. She loved the books and when she then overheard things about grandad and hospital it wasn't a scary place etc etc.
It's going to be tough make sure you are kind to yourself and keep yourself healthy as it will help you cope in the stressful times.
Sending more hugs

Pinklady1982 Wed 13-Jun-18 09:34:46

Thanks professional, good idea. Don’t know how much they will find today. Thank you too Cherry bun, good advice and I need the hugs right now! So sorry you had similar issues with your dad too. It’s jusy devastating isn’t it.

Elspeth12345 Wed 13-Jun-18 11:24:47

Thinking of you Pinklady and sending a virtual hug. Whenever you can surround yourself with friends.

MissCherryCakeyBun Wed 13-Jun-18 11:25:12

It really really is....that feeling in your stomach 😢
As I said try and look after yourself but yourself some nice flowers and watch a film with DD try and spend time relaxing and aloe yourself time to feel sad as it's very very normal xx

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