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Old age at 35?

(31 Posts)
ilovethem Sun 05-Feb-17 23:30:47

Ok ladies,
I've been to the GP a good few times. I'm borderline anaemic... blah blah blah. I take iron, eat well etc.

I'm in pain all the time. I wake up in pain and go to bed in pain. My GP says there is nothing wrong with me and I'm just getting older. I have 3 kids, had them very close together.

Does any other 35 year old here feel they are on the verge of old age with aches and pains? Am I just moaning about what everyone else feels?

ghostspirit Sun 05-Feb-17 23:33:42

Noooo I don't have time to get old shock old at 35 no way... how old is your gp 15? 15 year olds think 35 is old

DustyMaiden Sun 05-Feb-17 23:35:04

I did when I was 35 found out I had a b12 deficiency.

ErrolTheDragon Sun 05-Feb-17 23:39:30

Does any other 35 year old here feel they are on the verge of old age with aches and pains? Am I just moaning about what everyone else feels?

No aches and pains (well, except if I've been doing some form of exercise where it would be expected after). Not 35 ... 56.

Try to get an appointment with a different GP. Being in pain all the time is not normal.

dontpokethebear Sun 05-Feb-17 23:42:11

ilovethem you sound just like me. I'm 35 with 3 dc too and I always seem to have something/s that hurts.

I have found that if I do yoga (I follow a video on YouTube) first thing in the morn, I don't seem to be in as much pain during the day.
I've only been doing it a week, so I don't know if it's psychosomatic, but someone suggested it to me so thought I'd give it a go.

PlymouthMaid1 Sun 05-Feb-17 23:48:53

That doesn't sound right OP. I am twenty years older than you and don't generally have aches and pains. See a different doctor and make sure you do some kind of exercise to keep your joints supple.

ilovethem Sun 05-Feb-17 23:51:54

Thanks for the replies smile

Would my B12 not flag up when they do my iron?
I did try weekly yoga sessions for 5 months last year but found that it was completely wiping me out the next day.

ilovethem Sun 05-Feb-17 23:53:26

Oh and I don't sit on my bum all day. I never sit down really (like most mothers).

MajorClanger123 Mon 06-Feb-17 07:08:27

Hi ilovethem I am 38 and feel similar to you - I think 35 was the age that I, too, started visiting the gp more frequently about aches / pains etc (having never really been into the gp other than pregnancy related stuff). 3 young kids close together too (within 4.5 years I had all 3). I think it's probably rundownness - are all yours at school? My youngest started school last September and it gives me 2 days each week to myself, it's heaven and I must admit I've started to feel better again. Hope that helps xx

MyKidsHaveTakenMySanity Mon 06-Feb-17 07:25:02

35 and 3 DC here too. Great health generally, size 14, I'm rarely ill, eat quite healthily and am relatively active but I too am getting achy as f**k! My elbow joints ache when I'm carrying shopping bags, knees and hips crack and pop every time I get up and if I've been sitting a while I limp for a good 5-10 paces after getting up. My wrist is currently in a wrist support as it seems that I've developed Carpal Tunnel Syndrome. My lower back twinges sometimes too. It has also gone completely in recent history leaving me paralysed in agony needing a doctor call out with some funky meds. It was right as rain in a month or two.
I don't know what's going on but I feel fine other than these apparently "old age" aches and pains.
Maybe I need to start buying Seven Seas cod liver oil capsules like my dear old granny did...

Haggisfish Mon 06-Feb-17 07:27:06

Could be vitamin d deficiency. Not tested for routinely but loads of U.K. Pop deficient.

ilovethem Mon 06-Feb-17 07:52:03

Morning smile

I'm feeling more normal now with your replies.
Definitely going to try cod liver oil. I just assumed my B12 and Vit D would be tested whenever they do my bloods. During the week I need to pop into the surgery so I'll ask the receptionist then.
My kids are nearly all at school and the last one is a little angel.

nigelforgotthepassword Mon 06-Feb-17 08:03:30

Yes I did-went for a load of tests, turned out I have arthritis. (So the I felt even older!).
On the riven sends for it now I hope-after a year of messing about.Feel much better.

nigelforgotthepassword Mon 06-Feb-17 08:04:18

*right meds.

AndHoldTheBun Mon 06-Feb-17 11:02:08

When you say you "eat well", what do you eat?

I be thinking low b12, vit d, anaemia ... but those tend to be symptoms of conditions, and not the actual problem iykwim.

Has your thyroid been tested? Any IBS or migraine history?

Any close relatives with autoimmune conditions, RA/coeliac/thyroid/t1 diabetes or similar ?

Okite Mon 06-Feb-17 11:06:53

B12 alarm sounded in my head too. It's not routinely tested for in a full blood count.
I hit 40 and like you, felt old old old. Permanently knackered, brain fog, forgetting words etc. Put it down to having three young children in quick succession. Finally found out it was actually B12 and vit d deficiency.
If you are deficient in B12 by the way, unless you are vegan, there's an underlying reason why you are not absorbing it because it's very plentiful in lots of foods (meat and dairy). So replacement has to be done by injection, not by taking supplements.

Burntbum Mon 06-Feb-17 11:16:32

I used to feel like that. I was diagnosed with a vitamin D deficiency. After about three months of taking a vit D supplement I started to feel much, much better.

SkyLucy Mon 06-Feb-17 11:21:55

I would definitely ask to have my b12 and vit D levels tested - no, they're not considered within a simple iron test. Okite - it is actually possible to have low levels of both of these without being full-on vegan - I am veggie and was low on everything (made worse I think by dieting for 6 months!) but it was all easily corrected by supplements - no injections required.

Lovelybangers Mon 06-Feb-17 11:22:02

I don't think you can put it down to being 'old'. it's more likely due to having lots to do, not enough hours in the day and perhaps some kind of vitamin deficiency?

I have 15 years on you - and don't feel like that. Sure - there are a few creaks when I first get out of bed in the morning, but nothing that lasts long or prevents me from daily life.

Definitely push for testing on the VD and B12 - it's quite a specialised testing from hearing friends discussing it - not offered routinely by your GP,

Hope you get some answers.

MajorClanger123 Mon 06-Feb-17 11:45:17

Funnily enough, I found upping my exercise (I joined a gym when my youngest started school, before that I used to go out running a lot, which totally knackered me out!) and eating better, quality foods improved my general feelings of health. I wasn't eating properly (or enough) - never had breakfast (too busy trying to get 3 kids up and out the house), often missed lunch. Had a good dinner, but that was about it. I don't snack on crap at all, but I was surviving on one meal a day and lots of cups of decaf tea blush. I guess I might've had some vitamin deficiency too.

Obviously go back to GP's to ask for further tests if you're worried, but I have found that life with 3 young kids was, in a way, crippling for a while. I'd rarely sit down - even on a Saturday afternoon when everyone was pottering, doing their own thing - husband reading paper, kids playing etc. I'd never sit there with a magazine, i'd be tidying / washing etc. I'd flop on the sofa in the evening, and then when I got up to go to bed (at 9.30pm, rock n roll!) I was like a little old lady whose joints had seized up!

I realised that you really do need to look after yourself (Easier said than done!). I used to read numerous articles in mags about "me time" and 10mins mediation per day etc - I used to scoff at them all. I have now realised, however, that its important to stop rushing around at a million miles an hour. Good luck OP flowers, and take it easy!

MajorClanger123 Mon 06-Feb-17 11:47:28

ps sorry - I sound like some sort of 3 kids martyr in my previous post!! Just saying that life can get exhausting at times, especially when you've had 3 kids so close together. I also think that once you've popped out your kids and hit a certain age, you then become more aware of your own health because you've been running on autopilot during your childbirthing years!

ilovethem Mon 06-Feb-17 19:02:35

Breakfast would be eggs and toast or porridge with decaf tea and a glass of orange. Snack consist of dried fruit, fresh fruit or if I'm having a bad day I'll reach in the biscuit tin. Lunch is generally something like chicken sandwich or tuna baked potato.
Dinner ranges from chicken casseroles to fish. A couple of chocolate bars a week. I quit crisps ages ago.

Very rarely have a glass of wine in the evening, once every few months depending on company.

I'm outside a hell of a lot. Walking the dog. Gardening,football and rugby with the kids.
I understand with 3 kids I should be tired at the end of the day just don't think I should feel like I need to live in a tub of deep heat.

I definitely will be making enquiries about vitamin d and b12. I get hand cramps during the day and leg cramps at night. Conscious effort to drink more water is also needed.

ilovethem Mon 06-Feb-17 19:04:34

Major you're on the nose about the autopilot. It's only now I can see the a light at the end of the tunnel and I'm beginning to understand I need concentrate on my health.

Bettertobehealthy Mon 06-Feb-17 20:30:18

Hi op

it might be helpful to know that you can send for a quick Vit D test at the NHS Path lab at Sandwell City Hospital. West Mids. It is a blood spot on blotting papaer. they e-mail your result within a week. It is a paid for test at £28 , but often our Doctors are reluctant to do them , so it may be an option for you.

Also have a look at this thread , may be interesting. ?

Try and get b12 and thyroid checked as well. Blood tests do not commonly include them , unless specifically asked for by your doctor.

magnesium deficiency is also a possibility , and bear in mind that magnesium is a co-factor for proper Vit D utilisation.

Best of luck


eurochick Mon 06-Feb-17 20:50:32

Getting more tests done sounds like a good plan. I'm 41 and am tired all the time (and have been for years - I've had a raft of tests twice with no cause found) but don't have aches and pains like that. My back aches sometimes because I have a desk job and don't exercise enough, but 35 seems young for general aches and pains.

Controversial comment coming up. Are you overweight? I tend for feel sluggish and crap towards the top end of healthy BMI. I guess everyone is different but carrying an extra stone or so over my preferred weight makes me feel pretty rubbish.

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